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*iba
writes:i've been with my current boyfriend less than a month now, he is a nice guy and i like him. The problem is with his character, the work pressure makes him angry all the time and he vents it all on me. He scares me. Yesterday his very expensive car got smached into pieces, i had difficulties in getting it out of him since he was avoiding me for the last couple of days.. when he finally told me , he started asking me what to do. I felt helpless because every thing i told him pissed him off. I don't know how to communicate with him seeing that we argue about the smallest thing i say. what should i do? Excuse my english, it is not my native language. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 February 2013):
 your English is just fine!
if he scares you, you should end it.
I know that is scary in itself but it's probably better to do it now than drag it out till a point where you are so scared you can't move.
dating less than a month and asking you to pay to fix his car.... NOT good.
say no like you did.
and consider leaving him now... he sounds dangerous with such a bad temper.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): You cant communicate with him because he doesnt want you to. Avoiding you, becoming annoyed with you when you do say anything. Arguing with you over the smallest thing you say, these are the things he does to shut down communication with you because he simply doesnt not want any unless it suits him. I am afraid if you stay with him you risk becoming a doormat because he will want you to be seen but not heard unless he says so. You need someone who respects you, this guy doesnt.
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reader, biba +, writes (23 February 2013):
biba is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot everyone for your answers, i've been seriously considering leaving him. it's just that i'm kind of hoping he might change, and i certainly don't want to walk off on him in time of need
update: he asked me for money to fix his car. he was pretty hostile about it when i told him i can't help him financially .honestly i never expected him to come to me for money no matter how needy he is. so what do u think about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): If he is angry all the time and takes it out on you, he is *not* a nice guy ... run, and don't look back.
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