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writes:Having a 2 yr fling with a younger man.We only see each other once month and the only time we communicate is when it's time for us to hook up again.I for the ride just for sex.When we started I was married as well but divorced since then for non.related reasons.I'm confused I know its ONLY sex but this guy shuts others down from talking to me.We belong same organization and I told him this guy was textin me he knows. All of sudden this guy stopped texting me. This man don't care about me yet he stares at me when I'm around.Not to mention he's a dad now and has cheated whole time.Why don't he call other than that once a month.He plays the jealousy role at times but what for. He claims to fear his wife but yet I know others in our organization know about us because cold shoulders from other woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2012): lisa1471 - he is NOT a good man. A good man (a real man) does not cheat on his wife and family.
You need to wise up - if you can read the answers we've all given and still be making excuses for this loser then maybe you deserve him.
You decide.
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reader, lisa1471 +, writes (29 March 2012):
lisa1471 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm in such pain but its not the man's fault.He love and respect his family they always come first.He always go home to them so he's not that bad.He's been cheating on his wife since day one but with someone else but he never left.He's a good man.
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reader, lisa1471 +, writes (29 March 2012):
lisa1471 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis hurts because everyone is not only correct but the person that broke down everything he would do is on point because it's been done.Yes he has driven someone away who liked me forvhis own selish reasons.Just thought because time period he cared somewhat.Some say men catch feelings and after reading your answers I know its not the case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): lisa1471 - are you for real? You've made your bed with a totally unreliable, jealous cheat - so lie in it.
If you don't like it anymore get out - you're not a teenager, you're a mature woman. Act like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): Hi. This guy cant be very afraid of his wife if he is cheating on her with you and possibly other women too. He has as little respect for her as he has for you but he cant FEAR her. Hes just saying that to make you feel sorry for him. He is only interested in sex, he is not interested in you as a person. He is trying to make sure no one gets to have a relationship with you, so you are always be free to have sex with him when he wants it. You only see him for sex once a month because thats what suits him, he doesnt need to see you any more than that. His jealousy is not about you. He is jealous that someone else might take his place and get the sex sessions he has. He doesnt want anything to interfere with that.Be prepared for him to try and throw barriers in the way so it is difficult for you to move on from your divorce and date decent, single guys. His barriers might include such things as trying to drive off other men, making you promises about a future together, telling you lies about his home life so you feel sorry for him and faking feelings for you, so you think you are in with a chance of `more` from him one day. He will say or do anything he feels is working to keep you around for sex, anything that is...except leave his partner for you. If you value yourself, your good name and want to move on from your divorce, release this married father and find a single guy for dates, love making, companionship...all the things you WONT be getting from this guy! Having sex with him, especially now he has a child that might get hurt by his actions, makes him a very poor choice of sex partner in my humble opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): You need to get out of this relationship- cheating isn't healthy for anyone involved. He does that because it's typical male dominant behavior. He doesn't want to lose his sex supply and part of his harem. As long as you allow it that is the way you'll be treated.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 March 2012):
 Any/all guys who have found a woman who will put out for them WITHOUT CONDITIONS will say/do anything to keep that s*x thing going..... THAT is what YOU are experiencing. It would be futile and frustrating to believe that this guy is going to react rationally. He is only protecting the pleasure of his penis, for the time being....
Are you ready to give up and get a real life?
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