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writes:Hi :)me and my boyfriend have only been together for a month and half, and two days ago he kind of brought up the topic of taking things further. Whether or not he actually meant sex, I don't know. But as we only spoke about it briefly, last night we texted about it, and yes I do plan to speak about it in person with him. He said he's not going to pester me if I don't want to, and that when I pester him is when it might happen. He said might because he admitted that he was still battling with the fact that I am only 14. And he is 15. I am definitely not ready for sex, but other things maybe... Also, at the end of his text he only put "ly x x x" - any girl knows the difference between that and "i love you." I texted him back saying that I'll need time, but that I do want to. He didn't text back.So pleaaase help, what else should I say to him and what do you think I should do? Thankyou in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Any guy who feels he has to relate this via text message as opposed to in person clearly is not ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): I think you are being sensible about this. You are not ready for sex, and so you are not rushing into anything. You are both underage for sex anyway, but the fact that you don't want to is also important. I think you should stand your ground, and don't let him pressure you into anything you are not happy with. If he isn't prepared to respect your feelings and wait, he isn't the right person for you. But hopefully if you explain to him that you are not ready, he may get the message and respect your decision. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): You have to do what's best for you. No-one who really cares about you would ever make you do anything that you were not ready for. If he's for real, he'll understand and not pressure you. Talk to him about it face to face. Tell him what you are ready to do and what you're not. Make sure you feel comfortable with him. Go as far as YOU want, not as far as he wants. Stay in control! If he ever gets mad at you, or tries to force you, break it off immediatley to save yourself any pain. Take care.
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