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writes:HiI have a simple question here, is it a good or wrong thing to be with someone who has 2 kids to a previous relasionship and what should I expect from a life as a a potential 'stepmum'?My bloke and I have been together 9 months, very much in love, he has 2 choldren who I love dearly and they like me (they are 3 and 8), I don't have any kids, but my bloke said he would have babies with me. I am 31. His ex is a problem, but he deals with her. My parents say its wrong and they would never approve, but my man makes me happy. Yep sure, we have our ups and downs, but we love each other very much and he respects me. I have not had a relationship like this in years, my parents say I can walk into another relationship very easily but I think differently as love is hard to find.So what's everyones opinions?Thanks guys x
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 it's neither wrong nor right, it's difficult. As long as you know it , though, and you realizes that you 'll need patience, tact ,warmth and maturity to overcome inevitable challenges, then it's fine. Your parents are naturally protective of you and would like everything to be totally smooth and easy in your life, - but ultimately you are the one who knows what you can and want to handle, and you have to choose and live your life, whether they approve or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2012): Take it very slowly. i am step mum to three children and although the children are nice the mothers of the children are truly painful. They constantly interfere, change plans at the last moment and invariably want more and more money. If I had my time again I would not get involved with anyone who has children. It will be even worse when you have your own child with him as the 'mother' won't like it at all. Think very carefully. As it is only 9 months that you have been together I would wait a while to see how things pan out.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 April 2012):
 I don't know how much authority, or money your parents have. Of course you can be happy as a step mom if you know how to communicate effectively. There is nothing morally wrong about marrying a man with children. Some conservative people feel that they could not allow children who are not blood related into their family. It depends on how close you are to your family. If they are not going to accept their grandchildren it can be unfair to them. Can you go against your family's will and forgo the grandparent-children relationship and in-laws relationship? Love is hard to find. True. There are single men in their thirties who wants love. Also true. The thing is with your parents, there could be disharmony in your relationship with this man.
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