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writes:I am 13 years old and I'm dating a 17 year old,but he keeps pushing me to do unpleasant things,what should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, I'mheretohelpyou +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Well, this is why you should date guys your own age because he's probably used to things that your not used to but whatever you do don't give in to his requests, cause you never know if he's just doing that to get into your pants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): From what you describe, this guy is a juvenile delinquent, I bet he is a bad boy, someone who gets in trouble with the law or has been, doesn't respect authority and he probably is a high school drop out....or is about to become one....am I close?
Stay away from him, he doesn't care about you if he is pressuring you to do something like this....he is only in it for what he can get from you....he is a jerk and he will permanently cause damage to you if you continue to associate with him at all.
If he is forcing himself on you, tell someone you trust, like and older adult....in most states of the union, he could be arrested for molesting a child, or worse.
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reader, WastedLife +, writes (3 June 2008):
First thing - tell him it doesn't feel right and you're not ready yet. If he doesn't get the point, just say NO. It's important to know how to say YES too, but you're not there yet. Tell him if that's what he needs, perhaps he's too old for you. Ask him if he can accept you as you are, and then you two can consider these things later.
Now to the details? WHAT unpleasant things? Some are OK in a relationship when both partners want it, and others are just plain weird. Even that's OK if it's mutual and there's no permanent damage, AND you are both above the age of consent.
The USA has 50 different sets of laws about age of consent and depending where you live, anything intimate may be illegal - especially for him. This can cause more trouble than either of you wants to deal with, so find out NOW. This might help:
http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm
Good luck.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 You don't /ever/ have to do /anything/ you don't want to, and no-one should try and make you.
Tell him you aren't comfortable with the things he wants you to do. He is several years older than you and may be expecting different things from the relationship - clarify with him what you are and are not willing to do. Don't let him put pressure on you.
If he continues to push then he obviously does not respect your decision, in which case, it's better for you to end it.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): please get away from him. don't go out with someone that's gonna do that to you.. you're so much younger than him and all older guys want from younger girls is sex. i may add that this is illegal. it can be called rape. honey, find someone your own age and wait till you're grown up enough to understand everything.
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reader, remora135 +, writes (3 June 2008):
you shouldnt let him do that its your body, hes too old 4 you anyways, but if you wanna stay with him than set some major boundries
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 He obviously has no respect for you and your feelings. Just put your foot down and say "no", DON'T let him talk you into anything you don't want to do. You should seriously consider breaking up with him if he refuses to listen.
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