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*hanelcarlyne
writes:I need help trying to figure out what I wanna do with my realtionship with him.. We lived in the same city for a few months but then he had to move 1 hr 30 min away but we decided wed continue seeing each other knowing it would be harder being long distance. We would see each other every few weeks in person and talk or text nearly every day. For some time now Ive noticed were not on the phone together like we used to. Were 1 month shy of our 1 year aniversary. Also I feel like Im the one who tries to stay in contact. I mean he has always been the one to call and doesnt anymore really and I dont know I sometimes feel bad when he consistantly doesnt pick up my calls either. Thats our issue when were apart but when were together in person all our problems dissappear and we enjoy each other's company. Sometimes I think I should back off a little bit emotionally until he starts to show the interest and dedication he had in the first bunch of months we got together. I know it was what they call the honeymoon stage but see Im not comfortable investing me heart in something long distance if hes not as invested. I need suggestions on what I should do or any advice anyone could give would help out soo much.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 May 2010):
 In may experience long distance relationship are very difficult to manage. They may work out when people are already very commmitted to each other abd then they have to be geographically distant for some reason, but a very strong connection had already been established. And anyway, it can't be long distance forever. There must be the hope or the plan to get together somewhere down the road.
Wait and see a little more to see what happens, but do not be too surprised or disappointed if you find you can't recapture the initial closeness. It's just that long distance is a difficult thing to do.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (2 May 2010):
 Generally with long-distance either one person moves or the relationship eventually ends. Long-distance can't last forever. Usually one person decides they want out before the other and typically what happens is one person begins to make the other person do all the work, all the calling, etc... I think you need to talk about it with him and address the fact that you feel like he's not trying anymore. It could be due to him just getting lazy after a long time, or he might be trying to distance himself. Either way, you two need to communicate about it. Good luck.
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