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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:I'm a young woman and I have never really considered my sexual orientation too much before, but now I'm confused. I only consider men 'hot', not really women. Rarely, though, there is the occasional woman that I can recognize as very attractive, appearance wise. However, when it comes to sexual attraction I am neither attracted to men or women, but only men with other men. For some reason, I only get aroused at gay sex, and can only cringe at heterosexual sex and not really react at all to lesbian sex. I have never felt attracted romantically to anyone, and only really feel like I understand love when it's between two men. I know it's like some obsession I'll get over, but it's disconcerting that I feel so repelled by heterosexual sex, feel greatly attracted to two men having sex, yet am 99.99% sure I'm straight. PS- when it comes to dreams, I have only had one slightly erotic dream with a woman, but I have contributed that to my confusion with sexual orientation.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (23 December 2012):
I remember when I was your age my best friends girlfriend said she'd give us $100 each if we had sex with each other and let her watch.
Neither one of us is gay so we weren't down for it, but I wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in being a woman turned on by gay men having sex, just like countless men want to see women having sex.
There are so many reasons why people are the way they are that there rarely is a such thing as gay/straight.
You are what you are and you should do what makes you happy. If you are happy being alone and watching gay porn for the rest of your life then do it!
If you feel lonely you may want to look for a non-traditional relationship with a man who enjoys the company of women but is into gay sex.
Your sexual orientation, whatever it is, is not unique to you, it's just not so common that you see it represented in TV or spoke of too often.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2012): Fantasies don't define your reality. I'm a women who loves watching two men, because it's very erotic!But you haven't had enough experiences to know what you like. Just live life and whatever happens is what's meant to be for you but fantasies for gay guys is just a fantasy. Sex is better in real life!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Well, first off - there is no need to box yourself in to some sort of box! We're all somewhere on a continuum. So don't worry so much about giving yourself a label!
I think as you grow older, you will find somebody who you are interested in being with. And after you get to know them, attraction will grow and you'll be curious about sex with them.
Are you judging your attraction to particular kinds of sex through fantasies or your viewing pleasures? Because that can be very different from what you're interested in in real life. People may find, I don't know... let's take something easy. A woman may find watching anal sex exciting, but she has no interest in doing it herself.
You're young. Don't worry so much! As you get older, you'll figure things out, you'll find yourself attracted to whoever you find yourself attracted to. :)
Best of luck, sweetness!
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