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writes:I want to give some advice to my friend who is having trouble with her boyfriend.She tells me that he has a job but doesn't help her pay rent or help her out with the bills.He lives with her but doesn't like the help her with anything..like food,cleaning,walking the dog,paying when they go out to eat..she is always the one paying for his needs but when it comes to her he doesn't like to pay for anything.He also doesn't like to have to sex with her cause he tells her that she makes him mad.All he does is sit at home playing games online and texting all day. So i need other advice out there and plus she looking for advice from others. She dont want to leave him and they fight all the time..but what kind of guy is he?So any help well be fine..
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 Who cares what kind of guy he is, he isn't the problem, she is.
Say you come into my house and I punch you, who is then to blame for that punch? You, for coming into my house.
He can only do this, because she lets him and she doesn't want to see that.
But if you want the truth about him, then he is a winner. He has won what he wants. He has found a girl desperate enough to put up with everything. An amazing find, she got a sister?
You told us plenty about him, but nothing about her. What makes her so desperate/stupid that she puts up with all this? Once you figured that out, you will sadly realize there is little you can do to change this.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 January 2010):
 I think, if the information you have given about him, is correct, that we can all see what sort of man he is, although how he can sit at home all day playing games I want a job like his.
However, you cannot make her see sense, you cannot force her to leave him, that decision will be hers, and you just have to wait for it to happen.
There is an old saying, there is none so blind as he who will not see.
If you have the time and the patience just remind her every now and then you are there if she needs you, dont keep trying to change her mind, she might switch off or even turn against you if you become too pushy.
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