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writes:First off, I want to apologize in advance for this question because i know how ridiculous this is going to sound, but it's driving me insane not knowing the reason behind his thinking. So here goes.....Lately I've been noticing that this guy has been avoiding me, actually going out of his way to do so. I rarely see him in real life, I might catch a glimpse of him here and there, not because I'm stalking him or anything, but because we work in the city in neighboring buildings. So, all this avoidance is online strictly. I notice that whenever I sign onto chat, he'll sign off immediately. And when I sign off, he'll sign back on immediately. I know he does this because sometimes I'm in invisible mode so noticed this pattern. Like I said, it's driving me insane, I can't think of a logic reason behind this behavior. I'm usually the type of person who just lets things like this go, but I'm beyond curious what might be going through his head. Some background/history info-We went out on one date where at the end he asked me out, only to cancel last minute. He asked me out again 2 more times, only to cancel them as well -I have never IMed him first. He's always been the one to start conversations with me. So given that pattern, I don't see why he's signing in and out just to avoid a potential conversation that he knows I'm not going to start - Recently I posted an update on fb saying that I'm dying to go to this new bar that opened up and within seconds of that, he texts me saying that he would love to go with me. But of course nothing came of that I'm not into him, nor do I like him. I mean, we only went out once and obviously it wasn't that successful. But his behavior is just so confusing to me. I would really like your opinion on what you think is going on Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): "I'm not into him, nor do I like him"
Thats wonderful news because as it turns out, he isnt worth your time anyway, and it sounds as if he doesnt like you too much either.
"I would really like your opinion on what you think is going on"
Hmmm...Why worry too much about that, since its already been established that you dont like him, and arent even into him? Instead, why not avoid these questions into his perplexing behaviour when he clearly isnt worth a speck of thinking on, and just delete him entirely out of your life? If he bothers to even question why (which I doubt he will), simply tell him the truth (his perplexing behaviour, you dont like him too much,whatever you deem the truth)- that and you were doing a little spring cleaning, cleaning out the ghosts and cobwebs so to speak. And then move on.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 April 2011):
 He flaked on you 3 or 4 times, he knows he has been a jerk and does not want you to call him out on that. Yes , I know, you'd never do it- but , he cannot be sure you wouldn't and anyway - better safe than sorry.
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