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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My girlfriend and me have recently fallen out and I'm in such a state. The reason for the falling out is not important so I won't go into that. My problem is the way I'm reacting to this.She said she wanted space and I have done my best to give that to her. Its been 4 days.She text me to ask if I wanted to watch a movie with her but I thought this might be awkward... anyway, we ended up having a silly text argument.I want to give her space but I want her to realise that I'm hurting too and I only feel like we're playing by her rules. I want to talk, she wants space. So she gets her space but i don't get to talk.Anyway, I'm finding it difficult to carry on with everyday life. I'm constantly waiting for the phone to ring, constantly gazing out my window (she often walks past my place as she lives quite near), constantly looking at her FB page.All I want to do is squeeze her so tight but that's clearly not what she wants at the moment.I'm a sensitive guy and can be emotional... I know this sometimes gets to her. I want to be fun and enjoyable to be with when she does finally contact me but I also want to talk about how she hurt me and I know I'll get upset.She clearly wants to see her friends rather than me right now, which does hurt. Sorting a problem out with my girlfriend will always take priority. We're both mid 20s and been together about 18 months.I just needed to sound off about this really. There's not much I can do as my life here revolved around my girlfriend (we were so close and so in love). I want to go back to the old us but I dont understand why she wont talk to me or understand that I'm hurting too. I tried to tell her when we text the other day. I thought she cared about me! Surely she wouldn't want to know that I'm hurting and would want to help....we've had a similar problem to this before and we even split up for a very short time, before deciding to give it another go. I just sit here, not wanting to eat, finding it difficult to breathe cos of all this stress. What do I do??!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): You sound codependent.
Wanting her is one thing. But being incapacitated by her absence is something else.
It sounds like she is already at her breaking point with this. Pushing farther will only push her away.
I think you need to make some peace with YOU more. You existed before you met her and you would still exist if she left.
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