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*uperwomen20
writes:So this new girl just started working at my job about two weeks ago and when we met I thought we clicked right away. I showed her the ropes which she appreciated and we talked a lot about our personal lives. She would even compliment me on a lot of things, which I thought was nice. Once she got to know the other coworkers her attitude toward me had begun to change. She is still nice but now she doesn't talk to me as much and when I try to iniate a conversation with her she would either change the subject or make an excuse to walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2015): Hello
Please get some advise as I had the misfortune to work with somebody for years that was a nasty piece of work a trouble maker and a liar and was forever on to other pepole about me and others, she thought that she was it and looked down on others like they were from the gutter and if this is the case get legal advise.
Hope this helps and remember everybody is equal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2015): Maybe you should have a chat with someone appropriate in human resources and enquire if there are any known problems in your work, thereby screwing up the potential for any potential future slander or gossip.Be sure to point out that you gave of your time in welcoming her into the company, being friendly and showing her the ropes,thereby getting brownie points and recognition for doing a bit of training.Whatever you do,try not to let it get you down but then again a frank discussion with your human resources manager might clear the air and part of their job is to make sure workers are comfortable at work,not just allocation!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2015): dont feed this person any of your energy because she is a taker and has no way of being a reciprocator.It is probably a lot to do with her own inner feelings from her past. You meet takers in life, it is a good opportunity to learn how to deal with them and how to protect yourself.You could for example wear a rose crystal in jewellery to bring in warmth and love to your life..or a large clear crystal will give her the subconscious message that you want all of your energy back for yourself.Choose a beautiful scented oil to massage onto your arms and legs'..cedar wood is a very strong spiritual oil..but dont feel you need to tell her why you have made these changes, just say they were gifts from a friend.I am not drawn to takers because they waste and squander the energy they take from others, so from now on ignore her, just say hi and move yourself on and away and dont confide to anyone why your whering cedar oil.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (11 September 2015):
 Could it be that you are assuming more about what she thought of you than is actually true?
It seems natural that on joining the workforce she would lean on a helpful co-worker.
Just back off and let things return to normal.
You will see if she is using her personality to ingratiate herself and climb the office ladder.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (10 September 2015):
 Is there perhaps one or two of your co-workers that have issues with you? Maybe they have passed on their version of their grievances and she is taking their side?
If that is not the issue, maybe she has found her feet within the company and has found more in common with the other co workers.
Just be cordial and pleasant whenever you meet. She has the problem not you.
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