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What happened with this guy? What changed?

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Question - (10 September 2013) 9 Answers - (Newest, 14 September 2013)
A female Philippines age 36-40, *opeful31 writes:

Dear Cupid,

i'd like to ask for an advice. There's this guy that i'm dating for a m0nth n0w. He's my co worker, same c0mpany but different department. I enjoyed his c0mpany and i fell in love with him without him kn0wing. I'm hurting right n0w coz suddenly he just ign0res me. He's n0t texting me anym0re and he just ign0res me on fb. I always see him online and i tried to c0nverse with him but no response. I'm really puzzled, and im sad also coz he was the first guy whom i fell in love with. I never had a bf,..im really saddened with what happen. I saw him on a party this day but he didn't even talk to me. I texted him but as usual no response. I wanted to kn0w what's goin on, what happened. We were happy and enjoying each c0mpany,why d sudden change? I d0n't want what im feeling right n0w. ;-(

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A female reader, hopeful31 Philippines +, writes (14 September 2013):

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Hello guys. Thank u all for your advices. It helps me a lot. We already talked privately. He said he was sorry for what he did and he's n0w quitting in courting me,i asked him why. He said,he just can't take what he hears from our co-worker,they were thinking that the reas0n why he is c0urting me is to take advantage and that he wanted also to go to canada (im migrating to canada soon). I was saddened with his shallow reas0n, i told him he's shallow. Then he said,he would still c0ntinue to c0urt me for me n0t to get mad and that's the point that i got mad at him. I told him that he should nt court a pers0n just because he d0es n0t want that pers0n to get mad at him,he should court her bec that whats u wanted and u like her. Then he said he likes me a lot and he was sorry for being a shall0w pers0n and asking for a chance. Should i give another chance? I really like him. Thanx

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A female reader, sugarplum786 South Africa +, writes (12 September 2013):

sugarplum786 agony auntMeet him without setting any expectations to avoid disappointment. He seems decent to want to explain, hear him out, either way you will know where you stand. Hope it works the way you want.

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A female reader, hopeful31 Philippines +, writes (12 September 2013):

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He called me last night. He said he wanted to talk to me in private and he'll explain why he became cold to me. Could it be the end? He said sorry. Does that sorry means the end? Oh, im really havin a hard time. Idk if i am right with what im thinkin, she has a gf but no c0mmunicati0n 4 2m0s,they d0n't have closure,he told me for him, they're closed already. Did he court me because he just wanted a reb0und?and still inlove with that girl? Did he just used me? It really hurts me.

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A female reader, sugarplum786 South Africa +, writes (10 September 2013):

sugarplum786 agony auntI agree with Honeypie, go ahead and give him a call to see if you can clear the air. If this fails, let it go as you will be seen as stalking him.

Hope you get a positive response.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 September 2013):

Honeypie agony auntI would call him.

Could be that he thought you weren't as into him as he was into you. Hard to say, it's ONLY been a month.

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A female reader, hopeful31 Philippines +, writes (10 September 2013):

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We were dating exclusively. No, i never slept with him. We were both happy with our c0mpany. I was really planning to tell him i love him,but i was surprised for his sudden change. He always say how much he loves me and miss me everyday but i d0nt resp0nd to it until im ready

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (10 September 2013):

Honeypie agony auntWere you two exclusively dating? Or were you just texting? Were you sleeping together?

It makes no sense for him to just ignore you if you two were in the first month of dating, UNLESS you already slept with him and all he wanted was sex. Or if he has a GF already and she caught wind of him "seeing" a girl at work.

Instead of texting him how about a more adult approach? CALL him and ask what's up ?

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A female reader, hopeful31 Philippines +, writes (10 September 2013):

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N0,.. We just hang out, never get intimate with him. He said before he loves me, he usually holds my hand and tells me that he's willing to wait for me coz am n0t ready yet for c0mmitment. I thought we were ok then. I am planning to say i love him if he will ask me to hang out with him,but suddenly he stopped texting me.i am really puzzled with this guy and it hurts me a lot coz this is the first time that i entertain a guy and fell in love wit

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (10 September 2013):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntWere you ever intimate with this guy?? If "yes," then that is the "game changer".....

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