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writes:Hey. I’m 18 and have low self-esteem. I’d like some help.Over the last few years, I’ve suffered from very bad social anxiety. This has improved since going to uni but I still have self-esteem issues. I think this mainly comes from the way I look and how I’m perceived. I’m quite flat chested and I hate this. I feel ashamed and unworthy of being female, let alone a woman. I make an effort with the way I look but it doesn’t matter what I do, I think I look ugly. I’ve also never had any sort of sexual interaction with a guy. This is down to me knowing what I want, but it still makes me feel very insecure. I don’t believe that anyone could ever find me attractive. I also question my friends and whether I can actually trust them even though I have no reason to doubt them. I end up feeling very lonely.What do you think would help build my confidence? I’d really appreciate any advice because I constantly seem to be feeling down. Thank you.
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reader, Inbetweener +, writes (15 April 2011):
Have you tried telling your friends how you feel?You sound like you need to find out who you are in yourself; it'd settle your insecurities. No-one is ugly. Don't measure beauty on what the modern world perceives it as; beauty is far deeper than physical appearance. Try to seek what started these feelings; it could be anything from a nasty remark to a weird dream, but confront the trigger.If nothing you do makes you feel better, then the problem is psychological, certainly not physical. I think you're a beautiful person, regardless of image.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2011): Maybe you could try getting into shape, I've seen girls who'm are generally unattractive but have an amazing body that screams sex so they have some appeal. Could help with mood and confidence. Being flat chested I don't see it as a bad thing, either way if a girl is attractive she'll look beautiful. And you don't have to worry about them sagging with time so +1 you
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