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writes:so. i've been in an online relationship with a girl. for a year and a half. i was looking for a gf online because i was in a car accident and couldn't leave the house enough to really look for anyone. and it was easy...so i just kept talking to her and we got along at first. about 6 month in the relationship i asked her how many people she'd slept with. she said 3. and i'm pretty careful so i said when we meet that we should both get tested. she basically flipped out and ever since she hasn't acted the same. after awhile she got nice but it's still weird.i kept talking to her. even though she was acting kind of mean. she'd pretty much be attacking my friends that i'd tell her about. she'd say mean jokes then say 'just constantly. i don't know if i keep talking to her because i'm just so attached to her now. even though it's online or what. but the past few months things got better. she was acting nice. then out of nowhere she brought up using really weird fetish stuff when we meet. like almost sadist things. i got kinda freaked out and said 'if you want me to do this stuff then we should just be friends' and she said ok were friends. a few days later i was just randomly talking to her and she said she was joking and pretty much blamed me for the breakup saying how she still wants to be with me and it was all a joke. all my friends think i'm completely insane for keeping it up this long. i'm better from my car accident and i feel a lot better to go out meeting girls here. i know this is a pretty vague story. but i'm curios what anyone out there reading this thinks. i'll answer any questions and any opinions would be really appreciated..thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 An online relationship isn't real. It's hard to judge what she is because you can basically say anything on the computer. She must have thought you were joking too when you mention testing. It's a good thing to be safe but what she was inferring from you that you guys were going to have a sexual relationship? Who says that she is going to sleep with you? So she got that you are after her for sex and that's why she's bringing up sexual ideas as well. So even though you were trying to be careful she took it the wrong way. She is probably wondering why you haven't asked her out yet and I think you owe her an explanation. Tell her you are in a car accident and that's why it took so long. 6 months online and still nothing, one can only guess that you are just bored, lonely, looking for a sexual chat partner. This could explain her side of the story. Remember you don't know this person yet.
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reader, rivi +, writes (10 February 2011):
End it now - politely but firmly.
Then move on and find someone new - whether online or not.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Brutally honest??
I think its time to get out there and get a real relationship now that you're back in tip-top shape.
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reader, angelalb +, writes (10 February 2011):
Listen to your friends. This girl sounds bi-polar. You are better now move on. Join one of those internet dating sites. Thats the only way to meet a decent woman not a immature bi-polar girl. Good Luck Daniele
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