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*atcher00
writes:The Relationship:We get along great. We have similar humor and personality. We enjoy the same TV shows and always had a pleasant, easy time together. But we didn't always have a lot to talk about or share a lot of common interests.We had FANTASTIC sexual chemistry.We have similar values, religious and moral ideals, and respect each other. The Breakup:We were not at all cruel to each other. No name calling, no insults. No betrayal or loss of trust.We decided that we were different in important ways. For instance: She's traditional/conservative, he is kind of too but also tends to be liberal and progressive in thinking, more so than her. She wanted to spend more time together than he did. He was a very social person and wanted to always be out and surrounded by ppl, she'd rather be in. She was jealous. Now: They miss each other and still have feelings for each other.Is there any hope that it can be worked out?
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reader, little_3_eyes +, writes (12 April 2011):
 So she's an introvert and he's an extrovert? Yes, it can work out. He just needs to be more respectful of her need for less social interaction, maybe have homebody nights 2x/wk and go out 2x/wk and she can go home early if she likes.
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reader, daniellekate  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 I think you can work it out.
No matter what, there's something to talk about - I mean, you share some interests.
I hope you work it out. It's never easy; I'm in the same situation, but it's religious views that are stopping us. We're different religions and it's hard.... :/
Anyway, good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): If the reasons you both broke up came down to something as petty as one person being a bit more conservative and introverted and the other being a bit more outgoing and liberal, then no I don't see much hope. If you can use those factors as excuses for a break up then you both will probably use any excuse. Most couples don't generally care if the person they're dating is liberal or conservative, as long as he/she is passionate and independent and cool it really doesn't matter. If anything, maybe the lack of social-ness and the jealousy might have been the deal breaker for him. I too am a very social person and I need to be with someone who respects that. People who are very social and active are going to have a hard time adjusting to having no friends and staying in. Dating someone who wants to stay in all the time can be a real drag. A relationship is about compromise. So you both need to compromise. If what you want is to stay in all the time I don't think he is the guy for you. That is a pretty big conflict of interest and you will probably end up breaking up again.
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