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writes:(1).what is the opinion of both men and women about the issue of men watching porn together, even if it is heterosexual porn.(2). My husband likes to go a football game in Florida every year, which I have not caused commotion about. Sometimes he goes with a longtime college friend. My issue is this: The purpose of the trip is to enjoy a very popular football game, why then did he take our portable dvd player and porn along. To me that is upsetting because in reality sex has been introduced because of the porn. Also college buddies or not I find it unsettling that two people of the same sex, would watch porn together sharing the same hotel accomodations. I know that when I watch porn I become aroused and I am really afraid of the implications of that. The only thing that is in my favor about my husband's trips is that I know where he is staying because I book his room through priceline. I would appreciate honest answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers, it helps to talk with others to keep yourself sane.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008): So, what, do they masturbate to it together, too? That is what guys use porn for, after all. Sorry, but I think that's... twisted. I would not be comfortable with that at all. It's not a "man thing" - at least not for any man I've ever known or heard of. Any man I've ever spoken to about the issue says that watching and jerking off to porn is a very, very private thing for them; some don't even want to share that with their own partners! Sure, men (I believe they were called "perverts") went to dirty movies back in the day - before the technology existed that allowed them to do their business in private, where it should be done - but I don't think they sat together and I sure as hell wouldn't want to date any of them! Nasty.
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (26 April 2008):
 It doesnt make him gay! I mean he's not gonna watch porn and then jump on the nearest red blooded thing - man, woman or animal. Its just a guy thing and he took it because they were having a bit of a boys weekend - football, beer, porn.
Although I gotta say I've always been a bit weirded out by people who watch porn with their friends. I've never even liked the idea of boyfriends letting their friends borrow porn. Its just a bit personal and grosses me out for some reason. You're overreacting though if you're worrying that he watches porn with his friend and that makes him want to have sex with him.
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (26 April 2008):
 I doubt whether it's a problem - at least, it's probably not the problem you are thinking it might be.
Men watch strip shows at various venues, clubs etc where the audience is almost eclusively men. Similarly, films are shown at men's clubs, groups and military establishments where, again, the audience is almost exclusively men. It doesn't mean that when they get aroused they are suddenly going to do unspeakable things to each other!
If you are concerned about him watching porn when you are not with him (or watching porn at all) then you need to talk to him about it, but there is no need to be concerned about his sexuality because he is watching it in the company of other men. I assume, of course, that you don't have other reasons to be concerned about his sexuality.
It's a man thing. Personally I would sniff disapprovingly, turn my back on him when he mentions it, and let him get on with it. I don't think it's a problem for you.
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