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writes:Please tell me, what do you do when the person who you love, dream and care so much about, is unavailable and its unlikely for you to ever be with them cos they're already married and are quite older than yourself? I'm so depressed and i can't take my mind off him, i don't know what to do! My heart just feels empty - it's stopping me from having fun and enjoying myself...and when it does come to socialising with friends, he is the only person i talk about and wen i aren't talking about him, i'm thinking about him! Please Please Help, i can't carry on like this. xx
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reader, swtbby44  +, writes (10 August 2007):
man, I hear where your coming from, Ive gone crazy over this guy Im with, at three in the morning driving from a completely different part of town to his place to see if he was home after he wouldnt answer his cell. I was going crazy. he made me so insecure and it felt bad. someone once told me, love is supposed to feel good, and its so true. my advice to you is do what Im doing tonight, I just broke up with my boyfriend or we both broke up actually and I called a nice guy I met along time ago who I wouldnt see because I was in a relatinship already, and I am going out with him tonight. Im still really really sad over my breakup but I have to do this.
this guy is nice and kind and available and I need that in my life. and so do you, try to go out on dates try it, also, another thing that really really helps........call this guy and tell him what you really think of him, get mad at him and tell him off, have the last word, and you will feel very empowerd and will be able to move on with the dignity you deserve hon. I hope this makes sense...
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reader, Basschick  + ♥, writes (7 August 2007):
 You find someone who is available and you move on. Maybe someday, someway things could change but for now, it's best to fill up your time with friends and family and find someone who's not attached. I had a huge crush on a guy about 10 years ago. But he was in a relationship at the time and I was married. Fast forward, he is no longer seeing that woman, and I am divorced. I finally got the chance to meet him and we clicked immediately and ended up falling in love later. But it was just a chance thing, I certainly didn't waste my time trying to win him, or break up his relationship. The things that are meant to happen always do. And the ones that aren't - don't.
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reader, Polly Russell-Furse +, writes (7 August 2007):
 I agree. I had a crush on my driving instructor when I was 17. He was much older than myself and we actually kissed. I found out he was married after I'd passed my test and he went back to his wife. I followed his car everywhere - I was so upset and hurt.
A crush feels so much like love, but love is what you feel when you actually know all about the person you build a relationship with. Feelings are a part of growing up and becoming a woman. Your feelings for him will pass in time, especially when the boy of your dreams comes along! x
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (7 August 2007):
 Hi
In time it will pass, trust me. I had a crush on someone once, they werent available. I would walk the way they drove to work the time i knew they would be driving past. Made sure i had my best get up on! I was verging on stalker status! Only ever got chance to actually speak to him about once every few months. I never made any passes at him though & thankfully in time it passed!
Hang on in there.
C xxxx
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