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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Im pretty confused recently ive been out with my mate and a guy she likes.Hes a pretty nice guy. Shes liked him for a long time and she always thought he liked her, she told me why and i agreed. We all went out not long ago but i had to leave early as i had work the next day and them two were left alone. I asked her if she had a good night the next day and she said yea and told me that they had been really good together and had a great time and also said that when they were messing around and things it lead to quite abit of cuddling. he told her she was a great mate to him and that he was sorry for past issues.(he started all that btw) It was great to here because they dont talk to each other easily, shes always said this, sometimes hes normal with her othertimes hes really quiet. From spending time with them both i see what she meant when she thought he liked her, he does seem abit shy round her.However he talks to everyone else fine.Thing is we went out a week later and i was talking to him, we went in a pub and she was being really quiet, its a silly situation really shes shy to talk to him unless she knows hes gonna be himself with her. but anyway i was talking to him and he said "shes gotta be herself more, we went out last time when you left early and we had a great time, she was being herself and i really enjoyed it. I like her for who she is" Honestly im trying to help my friend here and im really curious as to how he meant that. i didnt feel right asking him outright in what way do you like her because i dont know him all that well and there were others around at the time and i dont wanna get into the situation as you do with some guys when they say something like no i dont like her and they really do because ive been through that myself and it causes awful pain. But do you think he meant that as he likes her more than a friend and wishes he could be with her? Or just as a friend?She did say to me however when i told her this that she doesnt know how shes meant tro be herself if he wont be with her.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (10 January 2010):
Well this is just going to be annoying if it carries on.
I think you just need to tell him that he needs to ask her out or to leave her alone.
Yes rejection is not nice, but do you want her to carry on following about like a puppy for the next 5 years if it's never going to happen?
Tell her to get her act in gear and flirt more.
Good Luck!! xx
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