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writes:Me and My Boyfriend have been dating for 10 months and he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I love him so much and I know it's stupid but I feel like he's the one. The only problem is he is insecure. He doesn't feel like he is good enough for me and he would get annoyed over little things. He thinks I like his older brother and that really annoys him. I really don't know what to do anymore, it's killing me. But, I love him and I wanna be with him.Any suggestions?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (30 January 2011):
 He's the one who needs to fix this himself, there is little or nothing you can do. He's the one with the insecurity, and he's the one who's comparing himself to his brother and telling himself these things. He's the one who need to change this bad cycle, not you.
Talk to him about it. Then if this becomes too much of a problem for you to deal with it could be best to end the relationship. There's no reason for him to take out his frustrations on you and you don't deserve that. Remember that you deserve something great, someone who is good for you. If he can't be that person for you, and is sick with jealousy and doesn't trust you, then no matter how much you love him you will have to leave.
Love is never enough to save a relationship. You need so much else. If he's unable to give the relationship what it needs you can't carry it alone on your shoulders.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Best thing is to start doing more special stuff for him. Send him texts and write notes saying you love him, and how much he means to you. Or kissing more in public can be a good idea. Men need an ego boost every now and then. And make sure you talk to him as well.
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reader, GG96  +, writes (30 January 2011):
Ok, I can see that being really annoying. Just talk to him...tell him he could be the one..
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