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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 8 months, we spend every Saturday night at his dad's house with his dad and twin siblings (boy + girl) aged 15.Recently his brother has been paying more attention to me, cuddling up to me, playing with my hair, just being really attentive to me. Last night he sent me a message online telling me he loved me. My boyfriend knows about all of this and is not happy at all. What can I do to diffuse this situation before it turns really bad? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionits not cuddling like the way i think you have taken it as sorry i didnt explain, i mean more that he will follow me round a room to sit next to me, sometimes tryin to lean his head on me, when i hug him goodbye he lingers a little too much.being attentive as in fetching drinks, buying me little presents things like that. i am not some pervert who wants my boyfriends little brother i need advice because i dont want htis to be happening. he has admitted it is a crush so il expect it should go away i have spoken to him but he is under the impression that he is in love with me (puppy love i think) but it feels real to him. it is definately not reciprocated. i see him as i would my little 10yr old brother. i just dont want my boyfriend to argue with his brother over what i believe to be a homrmone induced schoolboy's crush.
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reader, Biff160  +, writes (19 May 2009):
And why do you allow a 15 year old boy do these things with you? If my girlfriend was "cuddling" with my 15 year old brother I would be pretty upset too. To answer your question, I would apologize and be genuine about it. Let him cool off and tell him you had no bad intentions (if you didn't).
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): 1. reassure your boyfriend that nothing will ever happen and explain that hes still young and his hormones are all over the place
2. tell his 15 year old brother that your not interested (nicely lol) and that he'll find someone who will love him back and he'll get over it whether that be a while or not. and also staying away from him a little more as well might help and if he tries to get closer then move away
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