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writes:Why am I disappointed? I'm not so excited about the new car?Ok, so my boyfriend purchased a 'classic' car. It needs tons of repair work. That will take a bit of time to get that baby in good shape again. Anyways, he had said 'first a house then the car of my dreams.' Well it seems like things changed. This money could go for a decent down payment on a house. Am I overreacting here? I tried to sound as happy about it when he told me 'the car is mine!' But I can't help it. Is it wrong of me to think more about the future than to make a dream come true?
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reader, Biff160 +, writes (19 May 2009):
Let me give a man's perspective:
The car is great hobby and activity. Most women don't get terribly excited over the idea of it, but I bet he needs the hobby. Some mechanically minded men need some kind of activity to satisfy that aspect of them. Working on something like a car, or a trainset, or a model airplane, gives a person a chance to unwind and destress when it seems as though there are so many things in this life that stress us out. If your not excited about the car, it's ok, he probably doesn't expect you to get terribly excited. But be excited for him and that he is an active person.
Oh, and I wouldn't worry about the house right now. I'm sure it will come later. A house it a major investment while a car can be sold fairly quickly if he changes his mind.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): I agree with Gina. You will still get your house. In the meantime...enjoy helping him work on it! That can be a lot of fun! Even if all your are doing is handing him his tools. It's a good time for conversation and togetherness. And as you see her transformed into a beauty, you will share a sense of accomplishment!
Continue to save for your house, but allow enough for the car too!
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reader, accused +, writes (19 May 2009):
 I can understand your feelings on this one. You are looking at it as have a place to live, before you have a "classic car". Did your boyfriend discuss with you about buying the car? or was it one of those "surprise" things? First off if both of you had agreed on purchasing a home then he should have talked it over with you, at that point you could have expressed your desire to have your own DRIVE WAY, then when you got the "classic" car you would feel a little more excited about it. However if he decided to "surprise" you with the car, then I think you should talk to him and explain how you feel on having a house first. I don't know if you can take the car back or if its a done deal. I wish you the best..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBy the way he already has a car. This is more of a hobby/fix-up car. To keep and possibly sell for more later on.
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