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*ayinah
writes:hi,me and my other half have been together for a year and a half now and although i love him we recently had a argument,i told him i was going to lay off for a while give each other a break coz i was not in a good mood.we hardly get to see each other although we call each other when we can ,he reckons im going to get bored of him and were gonna drift apart.how can i reassure him.please help.thank you.
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reader, krazieecko  +, writes (11 June 2008):
Hi I am currently in the same situation, except I am the boyfriend you broke up with.
I feel there is no amount of reassurance you can give him unless you get back together fully. However, there are ways to let him feel he is still on your mind. Send him text msgs or emails. Call him occasionally and talk about your day and his. Go on a date, as if you were just beginning to date. Just do something to let him know you still think about him.
The hard part is, he is going to think you are stringing him along, and those are the same feelings I feel almost everyday.
But I have to ask, why are you on this break in the first place?
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (11 June 2008):
 I have never had a proper break in a relationship. Apart from a few days. So how long has it been, more than 2 weeks? Do you feel upset and hurt and realise what you are loosing? Sometimes an argument can make you realise what you have and a break is only a day or two?
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (11 June 2008):
 Well perhaps the fact that there is distance between you i.e. the occasional phone calls and perhaps the fact that it seems as though because you were not in a good mood there was an argument.
I think I would be confused to, so I think you need to address why you not happy at the time of the argument and understand whether you are INFACT unhappy about the relationship and that is why there has been this request by you for a break.
In most relationships if there is a break for any reason normally one person is bored with the other one and wants to be able to pursue other people so I can understand why he is fearful of you going off with someone else.
You need to find out in your own mind and heart what you truly want as NO ONE can work through their problems if there is NO communication.
You either want this relationship or you don't and if there are other things bothering that aren't relationship related then you need to tell your boyfriend this so that he fully understands why you need your space at the moment.
By leaving the situation open it is like saying how longs a piece of string and is that really fair on him?
If you don't want him but don't want him to be with anyone else that is a bit like a dog with a bone.
If you want to part then at least be honest about it and let him get on with his life and you with yours.
Start to think about what you truly want out of life right now and perhaps then you will know whether this includes your bf in the picture or not.
You have to be honest with yourself first before you can reassure someone else of your intentions.
BFN
Country Woman
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