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writes:ok, so i haven't talk to this boy in ages because i tried to ask him out and he rejected me. i have become great friends with him but i do not want to fall in love with him again because it might ruin our friendship, what should i do to stop myself agony aunts? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 Are you positive he is aware that you like him that way? If you were nervous when you hinted at it the first time it might be he doesn't understand that you like him that way. Im just saying this because I told my now boyfriend that I loved him years ago, and he rejected me. Only years later did we realize it was a misunderstanding. He hadn't understood what I was saying back then, and likewise his reply was misunderstood by me as rejection.
He's a close friend of yours, is it impossible that he might like you in a romantic way? It's been ages since you spoke to him, so even if he didn't think of you like that back then, perhaps he will now? It would be brave of you to directly ask him and clarify his feelings for you, before you proceed with the friendship. But it could also be a great move, just in case you do have a chance at being together.
The only good and safe way I know to not fall in love is to spend less time with the person. In fact avoid them to a degree. Avoid looking directly at them too much, avoid studying them and their features, avoid physical contact or keep it to a minimum. Avoid being alone with them. Avoid thinking too much about them, don't feed your feelings.
It might sound pathetic but what I did to avoid falling in love was to not look into his eyes. Or if I did give him a glance, look away real fast.
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