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writes: My boyfriend doesn't want sex with me. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years now and we're getting married in September. But he never wants sex with me. I try and turn him on, but he pushes me away. I'm starting to think it's me. I don't think he fancies me anymore. I don't want to start married life like this. Please help me. I love him so much, I don't want to lose him. Reply to this Question
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (6 July 2005):
You may love him, but the question is, does he love you?When a couple really love each other, sex is WELCOME.After many years together, the sex might be less often, but still enjoyable.If he is pushing you away now, it will only get worse as the years go by.You need to make a decision for your future.When a man REALLY loves a woman, he ENJOYS SEX with her !You deserve more than the little he has given you.I would try to communicate with him that you desire more sexual intimacy & then the ball is in his court.If he does not make a VALIANT effort to remedy the situation right away, then he won't change in the future.All the best sweet lady,
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reader, Matt,20 +, writes (4 July 2005):
Hi, I might be a bit young to answer such question, but hey sweetie, please don't think that eveything is your fault, you are commited and so is he, you two are one, so the only answer to this case, is you will need to find it, the way to do it is to have a chat, try not to say what's in your mind at first, as a guy my self wouldn't like to have my future wife to say it straight, try to bring the subject up, in that way you will see of he is in the right mood because remember this is a problem, and as said before in the above answers, can be mentally or physical problem, and if it's the mentally, then take it very easy...every problem has its solutionsevery question has its answer/severy actions has its REASONS.You will be a wonderful wife, just be open with eachother and you will see everything will come right!wish you all the very best for your future.Matt,20.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (4 July 2005):
 You haven't said if it was always like this. You have been together for six years, perhaps it is only recently he has been behaving this way or is it longer?
You do need to get to the root of the problem before you do make the committment of marriage.
Ther are a variety of reasons why a person may not feel like making love from stress to a physical problem but you need to know which it is.
Talk to him, explain how upset it makes you feel when he pushes you away and ask him directly how he feels about you. Try to find out whether stress at work is affecting him, is he more tired than normal, could he be suffering from depression?
Talking with him is the only thing you can do, to get to the root of the problem. It isn't surprising you feel hurt but you must let him know this and find out why he is behaving this way.
If he has some inhibitions or worries about performance, a sex therapist may be able to help but firstly you must find out why he has gone off it. Getting married is a big step and it would be unwise to do it while this problem persists.
Try to talk to him today.
Good luck.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (4 July 2005):
If hes pushing you away when you try to make the first move there is definitely something wrong here. It may be a number of things. Maybe there is something in his past that he feels unable to share with you. Maybe he's got pre-wedding nerves, whatever it is, youre making the commitment to get married so you need to have this out with him. Ask him why he never wants to have sex and if theres anything you can do to help the situation. Tell him how you feel. If things dont get any better maybe you should postpone the wedding for a while until things get sorted out?
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