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writes: My boyfriend and I have been "trying" to have sex for about 3 or 4 months, but each attempt ends in failure. We are both virgins and put the first few failures down to nerves, but after the first few times I realised it could be more than that.My boyfriend has told me that there is a history of erectile problems in his family, and this has resulted in him not being able to hold an erection for very long.Our main problem seems to be that he cannot find the correct 'spot' and keeps slipping out of me. Can you please suggest why this may happen, and if there is something (or a position) we could try to stop this happening.Thank you for your help!!
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reader, NordicBeauty +, writes (6 July 2005):
Online advice varies about this situation.The best advice I can give is to make an appointment with a gynecologist for both of you.The specialist will examine you & make an accurate diagnosis of the problem, and offer helpful solutions to remedy the problem.Go see him soon sweetie...he will put your mind at ease.
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reader, pops +, writes (4 July 2005):
I don't know what spot you or he is looking for. Get a good book on human anatomy and learn where your sex organs are. The penis goes inside the vagina. Your clitorus is in front of, or above, the vaginal opening. The opening consists of outer and inner lips or labia. The shape of the lips differ from person to person, just as the shape of the male penis differs. The clitorus us the site of nerve endings that stimulate your brain to experience orgasms. You should already know how to have your own orgasms through masturbation. Its your job to show him where to touch so that you can orgasm. Unless you are anorexic, the skin on your body has enough elasticity that the weight of the skin will pull the labia downward. If you are on your back, facing upward, as in the missionary position, the entrance to your vagina will be slightly higher, to him, than the openings to your labia appear. He will have to part the lips, and lift his penis up to enter your vagina. If you are facing down, such as in the doggy positon, the vagina will be again pulled down, and and he will have to enter the labia, and then lift up, as if he was going to put his penis in your anus, to enter the vagina. He can manipulate your skins by stretching it with his hands and fingers. so that entry is a direct shot, but that comes with experience. Try being on top of him, and lowering yourself onto his penis. That way your clitorus will be more likely to his his pubic arch, and be stimulated during intercourse. He will have to learn how to move to stimulate you during intercourse when you are on the bottom. You need to tell him what feels good and what does not. As for erectile disfunction, Talk to him. Is he afraid of getting you pregnant? Or cuming too soon? Nip that in the bud. His climax, whenever the first occurs, is only the first. At your ages, you should be like rocket ships several times a night.
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