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writes:My boyfriend and I are going to be starting college this August. We have been together for four months now.It seems like we are always fighting or I am always pissing him off. It seems like he only wants me for my body, although he claims this to be untrue when we are alone he is all over me. There hasn't been a time when we just spend a night hanging out rather than other.. things. For the past few weeks I have been having major doubts.We say 'i love you's' to each other but im starting to think that im just saying that to him to make him happy, and for him not to worry when really he should be. I am extremely afraid that I am going to find someone in college that is more right for me. There isn't really a question but I am seeking some advice. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes we are going to the same college, eyeswideopen. And thanks to everyone else for the advise it really helped.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (20 June 2012):
 You think he's using you for sex... what happens when you say NO?
saying I love you doesn't mean it's true.. my current partner NEVER says "i love you" but he loves me purely and truly more than the last husband who would say it ALL THE TIME but had NO CLUE what it really meant..
you fight all the time
you don't think you love him and are afraid you will find someone else... more than likely you will.
I think that even if you were not going away to college it's in your best interest to end this relationship.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 June 2012):
 You are oh-so-close to the "answer" to your query when you write: "...It seems like he only wants me for my body, ..."
Keep thinking about THAT phrase... and see if the "answer" doesn't, miraculously, appear in your mind. I KNOW, 'cuz I am a guy.....
Good luck... and study hard!!!!!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 June 2012):
 Are you going to the same college?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 June 2012):
 Dump him. Fear is the other face of hope , they say, so maybe part of you HOPES you'll find someone more suitable in college. Better breaking up than cheating, so...
Anyway, it's not clear to me why you are hesitating. Time is on your side, at 18-21 you don't need to get stuck with someone who does not make you happy. It sounds that you are far from happy in this relationship, always fighting, feeling unappreciated as a person, and yes, the fact that you can't spend time together out of the bed, I would like to just attribute it to juvenile enthusiasm and overwhelming passion, ... but I actually think it is a red flag, a couple should work both in and out of bed.
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