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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my girlfriend for over 8 years now, since we were both 16. I have loved her since I met her. Over the years she has become my best friend, my partner, my lover... she is everything to me, everything I could ever dream of. So a few months ago I proposed to her, and she said yes. Which rocks.But whenever I talk to her about planning a wedding, or actually getting married, she dodges the subject. I understand being a bit nervous, because it can be overwhelming to plan something like a wedding. But she refuses to discuss dates or a timeframe. I asked her if she wanted to set the date for next July (over a year from now) and she got kind of tongue-tied and wouldn't commit. So we do not have a date, nor are we moving forward at all in the planning. She never wants to talk about it.I asked her if she was having second thoughts, she said no, she wants to marry me, just that she has a lot on her mind right now and can't think about weddings. She does have a lot going on- she's finishing up her degree, working at a new job, while continuing to hunt for a part time job, and we are moving in December. But I proposed so we could get married. I've dreamt of marrying her since the first time we kissed. I want to get married. I don't care how, or where, or when. I am worried that there is more that she is leaving out that she's not telling me, just because of her odd behaviour.From a ladies point of view- should I be worried about her lack of excitement? From a guys point of view- you ever dealt with this? How did it work out?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 June 2010):
 Sounds like she does have a lot going on at the moment, why not wait for the dust to settle? What's the rush?
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