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writes:Lately we've had problems with getting in fights over the stupidest things, we have been dating for 8 months and I know in my heart that I love her with all of my heart and she says so to but, either she's not really good at showing it or something. The most recent thing was today, I asked her about a party that I wanna take her to next week, and at first she said I don't know if my mom will let me go because I can't sleep over at a neighbors house (my neighbor's a girl and a real good friend of mine), then it truned into I asked but she said no, then well I don't know if I wanna go or not. I haven't seen her anywhere except for at school, and that's just in the mornings because she says she doesn't want to spend every second of the day with me, so fine, wotever, but now she doesn't make an effort to see me outside of school.We almost broke up couple days ago, but a friend of mine was telling me about a movie he saw (fireproof) and he was telling me about the four seasons of love 1 romance2 reality3 resentment 4 rebuliding (unconditional love)and he said that were in the 3rd stage of our relationship and he said that noone can fix it except for me and her. so it saved us because I talked to her about it and she said she wants to stick it out and she also said that it gave her a confidence boost about "us". I can't handle not seeing her all the time, and it makes me cry every time I think about breaking up, and I don't know how to fix it. I really want us to last but it seems she's just fine with not seeing me all the time cuz she says that she wants to spend time with her family and friends and I feel like I'm last on her list, I just want some attention, idk what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell were all good now but incase it happpens again then ill have a good idea what to do next time haha but thanks for your help
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reader, chandra Mcmillan  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 Hun as a not so long ago teenager myself I can only say Love survives. You sound like a very sensative boy/man who wants more than just a casual relationship, maybe even more mature than your age (which is good)Your girlfriend sounds like a tipicle teen who wants her friends her space and her boyfriend. This is not an uncommon thing and I really would try not upsetting yourself over it. Speak to her again but try not to sound too needy it can somtimes work against you. Tell her you want to spend more time with her even if it is with her friends or every other weekend. If you really have a lot of feelings for her and she has the same for you you will both have to work at building a full term relationship. It is not just you but her too.
Try not to let this eat you up inside and go with the flow. I hope this has helped and you let us know what happens.
Chandra :)
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