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Went too far on the first date?

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Question - (28 June 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 28 June 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, *lyciaohtwo writes:

I recently left an abusive young man that I had been dating for 3 years, because he had cheated on me several times and would try and pressure me to sleep with him. I'm young, only 18, and still a virgin, I never gave in to his demands. Soon after I met a great guy, 21 years old, we're very compatible, and we talked and texted for about a week before we agreed to see each other. When we saw each other, things went too far and after making out, I agreed to come to his house and we made out some more on his pet, with petting on my side...I refused to take off my shirt when he asked me to and he also put his hands down my pants a couple of times but I would pull it out each time. After I went home, I started to cry because I realized I had gone too far......I'm afraid that I've ruined my chances at a relationship with this guy and I'm also afraid to talk to him about it....sigh, I don't know what to do

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A male reader, Universe Man United States +, writes (28 June 2010):

If you went too far for your own morals or comfort, then okay, you've learned that lesson, right? But I'm not sure why you think you've ruined your chances with him. I doubt he thinks you went too far. You didn't have sex. You didn't even get naked. You don't need to talk about it with him at all unless for some reason you think he's put off by the whole thing (which, again, I doubt). Just do what you feel.

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A female reader, alyciaohtwo United States +, writes (28 June 2010):

alyciaohtwo is verified as being by the original poster of the question

and by petting on my side I meant I was touching him intimately.

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A female reader, Nano United States +, writes (28 June 2010):

my dear

well done, you didnt give in to what you didnt want

its very hard to stick to your beliefs

you did the right thing.

he will respect you if he is decent, if not, then he is there for the sex, he will eventually leave like the first.

you DONT NEED them. if he wants you he will wait till you are ready and the time is right. yes, it will be awkward for a while since its gone too far, take a break from each other, them see what happens. either you forget that moment and continue..... or split.

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A female reader, alyciaohtwo United States +, writes (28 June 2010):

alyciaohtwo is verified as being by the original poster of the question

We made out on his BED******** I don't know why it says pet!

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