Gay marrying a woman
Q. Hi, i am 29 yr gay, but i look like other normal guys, my family is pressurising me to get married, bt i dont like gls ,i like ther boobs bt nt vagina, i want to kno can i b able to fk my wife nd satisfy her? I am very tense,i have to marry,pls give ...
A. 5 August 2011: Marrying a woman under the pressure of your family is understandable. But it's not the right thing to do. You'll never love a woman the way she wants to be loved. You should be yourself and be openly gay. That might mean going somewhere else, like ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't fancy me, why is he with me and why does he go mad if other guys look at me?
Q. I am in a 5-year relationship and, although my partner doesn't want other men looking at me or showing an interest in me, he obsesses over younger women and oftentimes masterbates as a result. I find that hurtful, especially when we probably have ...
A. 28 June 2011: You observe that he obsesses over other women and masturbates. You assume that this means you are not satisfying him. This is not a fair assumption. He may have a very high sex drive. Maybe you should have more sex with him. When he mastur... (read in full...)
Is uni worth it or should I quit and live life like my brother?
Q. I have a question about university and the point of it, because I'm a first year, just finished my first semester and I'm studying for a Bachelor of Arts, majoring in history. Lately it just seems that, for starters, if I did get my degree then ...
A. 28 June 2011: How is your school paid for? Are you taking out loans? If you're going into debt and you're not sure you're making the right decision, stop now and get a job. You can always go back to school. Going into debt is a slippery slope... "I'm a... (read in full...)
Caught my dad red handed with porn, what do I do?
Q. I don't know wha to do. This evening I walked down stairs to find my Dad in the sitting room on his own watching "Pornhub". He wasn't doing any hand 'business' but it was clear what was going on. I dont mention it at the time. But i am now left ...
A. 10 June 2011: Your dad didn't do anything wrong. Don't think twice about it.... (read in full...)
My daughter only needs one summer school class to get her diploma, but she wants to get her GED instead! Should I encourage her to take the class?
Q. I am the mother of four children. Three are well over 21 and are attending community college, and two have recently transferred into a four year college. The youngest of my kids is my daughter, a 17 year old who will be 18 in a few days. This mor...
A. 2 June 2011: The only difference between a diploma and a GED is a social stigma from people who think that formal education is the be-all and end-all of human existence. Let her make her own decision.... (read in full...)
Is sleeping around normal for models and actresses?
Q. so i was at a party my friend invited me too (he's in the music industry, i'm not) and there was this girl i liked. it was a lot of people there from the entertainment industry. this girl was smoking hot, around 26 y.o. i was gonna go over and talk ...
A. 2 June 2011: First of all, did you ever speak to this woman? If not, why would you ask someone for her number? What do you think are the chances of her returning your call? "Is this common practice?" For some very beautiful women in the entertainment in... (read in full...)
He has two kids by two different women
Q. Do you think it's bad if a man has two kids by two women ?. I have just met this man, and he has a 12 year old son with one woman, and a one year old daughter with another woman. He is single at the moment though. I don't have any children. I'm not ...
A. 2 June 2011: The fact alone doesn't matter. You don't know the backstory. Maybe he was just unlucky getting two women pregnant and both relationships were totally incompatible.
What matters is his relationships with his kids and his relationships with his... (read in full...)
She has a double standard when it comes to professional touching
Q. My girlfriend of 2.5+ years is an aesthetician. Included in her duties are the occasional bacial (men’s back massage/skin treatment) and men’s facial, which includes an oiled up shoulder massage. When we first began dating she was very controlling ...
A. 2 June 2011: Tell her you're going to do what's right for your professional life and that it's nothing but professional. Tell her that you're not going to explain yourself to her and she doesn't need to explain herself to you. Don't play the jealousy game and ... (read in full...)
Can anyone else relate to this horrible experience?
Q. I have the most terrible guilt over cheating with another man at work. It happened a year ago. We were both very drunk and one thing lead to another. Within a couple of days I admitted my infidelity to my partner and we had a long period of ...
A. 1 June 2011: Wanting affection from someone new seems the human way to be, doesn't it? Why do so many marriages end in divorce? Why do about 80% of all DearCupid questions have to do with conflicts regarding monogamy or lack thereof? Cheating is human; ... (read in full...)
8 years, 1 child, another on the way..how do I get him to marry me?
Q. My fiance and I are both 28 and have been together for eight years. We have a three year old son and I'm currently 8.5 months pregnant with another boy; we even have three fur babies (a dog and two cats)! We've talked about it several times when we ...
A. 31 May 2011: You're practically married. You have a household, a history, commitment, family, and a ring. I'm going to give you a man's perspective here... maybe he already feels like you're married, so he doesn't really see the point of going and signing some ... (read in full...)
I'm interested in my new co-worker but don't know if hes married or interested
Q. Hi, A new guy has just started at my workplace (last few weeks). He doesn't seem to talk to anybody much except the children (we work at a school). He does not wear a ring so I don't think he's married. Since he first started, my colleagues ...
A. 28 May 2011: If he wants to know if you're married, he's probably just going to look for a ring and figure it out. He sounds shy. If you want to get to know him, you might have to do a good portion of the legwork... making conversation and whatnot. He'll ... (read in full...)
When a man says I love you first
Q. Been seeing this man for 7 months, I always knew he had feelings for me but never knew how much until he told me a week ago. He told me he loved me and he wanted to me to have his baby. I was shocked by this, I had no idea he felt this way. He ...
A. 28 May 2011: He probably doesn't have a plan. He just loves you and felt like saying it. Saying he loves you has probably been his big plan for some time now.... (read in full...)
I'm gay only on the internet. Is this normal?
Q. Hey, i need some help, i don't think i'm gay or bi, i love girls, i like them. But actually i like jerking off with boys in the Internet via different chat or something like that. Few time ago i watched gay porn, now i like jerking off wih boys, i ...
A. 28 May 2011: Straight people can often find people of the same gender sexually inspiring. A straight woman watches porn and finds the woman arousing because of how beautiful she is, or because of the effect the woman has on people. A straight man might ... (read in full...)
If a girl gives out her contact info to a guy without any intention of dating him, is it leading him on???
Q. ok this friend of mine (a girl) got into an argument recently and i would love to hear your opinion on this. she is very pretty and she gets hit upon a lot. she is very friendly too so she engages guys in conversations. then they inevitably ask f...
A. 27 May 2011: "Not interested in them romantically."
Of course not, otherwise she'd continue to be with them. But that does not mean that she is not interested IN ROMANCE. Everyone wants to be loved. Everyone. She may feel nothing for any guy she's ever met... (read in full...)
Was he offended by my height?
Q. I am an outgoing 27 year old female. I am 5 foot 4 1/2 and slender. I recently had a date with a guy and went to the river. I wore flip flops because of the rocks, he (6 foot 3) thought that I was taller (I wear heels a lot) Was he offended by my ...
A. 24 May 2011: What strontiumdog said.... (read in full...)
If a girl gives out her contact info to a guy without any intention of dating him, is it leading him on???
Q. ok this friend of mine (a girl) got into an argument recently and i would love to hear your opinion on this. she is very pretty and she gets hit upon a lot. she is very friendly too so she engages guys in conversations. then they inevitably ask f...
A. 23 May 2011: Probably she's just being picky. You said yourself, sometimes she'll go on a few dates with them. Some guys probably don't get the number in the first place. Others get the number but don't get a date. Others get a date but don't get a second or ... (read in full...)
Would you rather like someone too much, or have them like you too much?
Q. A hypothetical question: Would you rather date someone who you really liked but they weren't so into you? Or someone who you weren't really into but they really liked you? This is a real life situation I'm in right now, so thanks so much fo...
A. 20 May 2011: I've read that relationships in which the woman initially pursues the man are not as strong as the other way around. Men traditionally are the aggressor, the chaser. A woman may very well convince a lonely man to be with her, but that man may ... (read in full...)
Is my teacher flirting with me?
Q. I'm just curious but...is my teacher just a big flirt? I've been in his class for two years, I always stop by his room before school starts to say hi, chat or to study. He poked my arm at times and jokes with me. I know a lot about him and he knows ...
A. 20 May 2011: Being a "big flirt" with your high school student IS crossing the line. But that doesn't mean he's some kind of pervert. Men get lonely, and high school girls are pretty. The guy just needs a girlfriend.... (read in full...)
Needing a man's advice on texting!
Q. Okay, so I'm 23 and me and my man have not been together long- but we but be became serious pretty quickly... I never like texting much... Well we don't get to see eachother as much as we'd like bc I'm a mother and can't always get a sitter... When ...
A. 20 May 2011: I think you've got the right idea in general. It's best to be careful not to come across as needy, obsessive, etc. But it is okay to take a little initiative and be the first to text him, now and then.
What is his behavior like? Do you think he... (read in full...)
Is Skype sex forgivable???
Q. I found out my boyfrind of almost 2 years has been goong on skype to talk and masturbate with a girl he met in a sex chat room. I kicked him out, but then we talked and knowing his history, decided to take him back and go to counseling. I love him ...
A. 19 May 2011: He's not having sexual interactions with other girls because he's emotionally scarred. He's doing it because it's fun. Maybe he kept it a secret because he's emotionally scarred, or because he thought you'd leave him if he knew. If you're open to ... (read in full...)
I read her diary and found out she was bi-sexual! Should I confront her about this?
Q. I've been dating the girl of my dreams. I have been over the moon for the last 5 months because I have finally met someone who I feel real love for, and who loves me back just as much. She is gorgeous and kind and I truely have fallen head over ...
A. 18 May 2011: This is entirely your mental issue, dude. Plenty of young, hormonal women feel they're bisexual. Sometimes they change their minds, sometimes they don't. Rarely does it interfere with their ability to have a loving, committed relationship.
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Why would this 28 year old want to date me? And if he just wants sex, why would he bother asking me out to dinner?
Q. Hey there, Agony Aunts. (: Just a few things I'm wondering about... I am recently single and an attractive 19 year old. The other night while I was clubbing, a guy bought me a drink and we ended up spending most of the evening dancing and hang...
A. 18 May 2011: Wow... Cerebrus must be this guy's best friend or something, because he seems to know way too much about him from a third-hand account of a few paragraphs.
Seriously though, your problem is that you want all the answers up-front. You want to ... (read in full...)
Is revenge worthwhile or just a waste of time?
Q. I would like to know what you think about this question.. Is revenge really worth anything, or it is just a waste of time? ...
A. 18 May 2011: It is not worthwhile.
It is also not a waste of time in the sense that it is neutral or something.
It is actively harmful to your psychological health. When someone harms you in some way, you need to understand why they would do it. You need... (read in full...)
How do I make my husband see what his lying does to me?
Q. How do you get your husband to understand the amount of pain his constant lying and flirting can do to a marriage?...
A. 18 May 2011: The lying is his issue. The flirting is yours. You can change your mind about having a problem with your husband flirting with other women. You can enjoy flirting with other men. You can both have these things and still have a monogamous relat... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 8 years is going to online sex sites
Q. i'm devoted to my boyfriend for 8 years, but i recently only found out that he is going to online sex partners and he wrote that he wanted to have group sex.. When i asked about this, he said that its for fun but he didn't meet anyone. i wanted a...
A. 18 May 2011: Well, aunt honesty's advice will definitely show him that you mean business, but in that month's time, there's every reason for him to pursue other women or group sex, and really no reason not to. And that would be his right. Look, your boy... (read in full...)
What type of girl appeals more to men?
Q. This a question I have wondered for a while, and men would probably find answering this one easier, but what type of girl do guys usually go for? I know it's personality that counts and I would never change how I looked to please someone else, bu...
A. 18 May 2011: Long, shiny hair, a lean body, and at least a little bit of a tan are fairly universally attractive things in a girl.
The makeup thing is a matter of personal preference, but you're more likely to overdo it than you are to underdo it.
People ... (read in full...)
A night of fun or the real deal?
Q. At the end of the school year I ended up going out on the town with a good female friend of mine. Alcohol was involved, and by the end of the night we were sleeping together and making out. When we woke up the next morning, we were both sober and ...
A. 18 May 2011: You want it to lead somewhere, right? So make it happen. She obviously likes you. Don't wait for her to call you or pour her heart out or something. Call her up and take her out somewhere.... (read in full...)
Why does my ex log into messenger everytime I do and stay on for as long as me, when he had blocked me before?
Q. HI All, Your insights would be most welcome!! I finally ended it with my ex- well he was an ex but we were still kind of in touch. It was a very volitile relationship,I really loved him, but I got very hurt, and was very angry that he would se...
A. 18 May 2011: If he inspires so much emotion in you that you take the trouble to write him a vile email, then he knows he is on your mind. He's not so dense that he's contacting you again, but he's curious enough to make himself available for you to contact, be ... (read in full...)
Guys hit on me and I rejected them, so why do I feel bad?
Q. Okay, so I submitted this once and got no replys so i am trying it again. So please please help me! this weekend I went to a friends house and got on facebook and two different guys kept calling me hot and sexy, and I told them I had a boyfriend....
A. 18 May 2011: If simply being called hot bothers you, you should just learn to take it as a compliment, because as a teenager, it's going to be a while before you start looking old... at which point people will no longer call you hot, and at which point you will ... (read in full...)
How can I gain clarity about my situation?
Q. This is my life. I live with my girlfriend. I get up for work at 6am everyday and return around 7pm. My girlfriend does odd jobs and persues her creative work. We have not had a sexual relationship for well over a year. I don't really know how this ...
A. 26 February 2011: Tell her you have doubts about whether you have a future together. I bet if she contemplates moving out and finding a job in this economy, she'll get a whole lot of perspective real quick on appeasing your misgivings. Not to mention the prospect of ... (read in full...)
My 21 year old is dating a 28 year old married with 3 kids! I don't want him to ruin his life!
Q. My son is 21. I learned a few months ago he is dating a woman who is 28. She has 3 children - the oldest one being 14. He says he loves her. I think she is using him. I have stated my concerns such as she's married, she is 7 years older than ...
A. 26 February 2011: She's using him for what? His big salary at the local Best Buy? Tell him to use a condom and don't get married, and he'll be fine. She's no more likely to break his heart than any other girl, and broken hearts do not ruin lives.... (read in full...)
I'm not opposed to a threesome but I feel the girl and my man might become a little too interested in each other...
Q. My wonderful boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years. He is very good looking, in beautiful shape, great eyes, and not to mention well endowed.. So, one night this past summer, we almost had a threesome with a girl he met first, but I ...
A. 25 February 2011: My guess is, if you show that you are secure and confident in sharing your man a little, he's going to be more in love with you than ever. Your situation has been good for nine years even WITHOUT him getting any on the side. I really don't see him ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date your ex brother-in-law?
Q. Do you think it's ok to date your ex brother-in-law? We were related by marriage, I have been divorced from his brother for six yrs, and he was widowed over a yr ago?...
A. 17 February 2011: I think the people you should be asking this question are your ex and his brother. It's not like there's some kind of ethical code you'd be breaking.... (read in full...)
So for Valentine's Day my boyfriend got me lube and a dildo, where's the rest of my present?
Q. My Boyfriend got me a dildo and lube for valentine's day and I'm really upset because that is not at all what I wanted. What should I do?...
A. 14 February 2011: You should realize that expectations for gifts are only a way to set yourself up for a letdown, and that expecting nobody to ever give you anything is a much more realistic way to approach life. If you expect things, you'll either be satisfied or ... (read in full...)
If I leave, I will bring shame to my family, and they will break all ties with me! What should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I am a 24-year old girl from Bordeaux. My family comes from Pakistan and we are quite a traditional family with close family ties. They do not allow me to meet my friends and my only occupation is staying at home and doing my house...
A. 12 February 2011: I nearly fell over when you said "sorry for my bad English." You want to know what bad English is? Come visit the United States.
I think you should go to Paris, be with Claire, go to University, and become a world-class physicist. Your parents ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't my girlfriend consult with me first before making plans?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for about 2 years now. It's a long distance relationship. Everything was going so well until I realized we don't have much to talk about on the phone. It's the same old stories, so our conversations don't last long. A...
A. 12 February 2011: Okay, you live in Kenya, and maybe things are different there. But most people on this site are Westerners, and to us, it sounds weird to hear you say you want her to consult with you before she goes out with her friends. Modern western women would ... (read in full...)
How can I better manage social situations? Can anybody relate to my lack of social skills?
Q. I've recently turned 33 and over recent years have experienced an increase in people enquiring about my love life status. This in turn forces me to assess my personal circumstances, specifically my lack of social skills. I have always struggled with ...
A. 12 February 2011: I'm kind of similar. I'm 30 with a lot going for me, but I'm perpetually single. And recently, a lot of people have been kind of talking about that too much, taking too much of an interest in my love life. First of all, if people inquiring into your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend used his sex toy to masturbate AFTER having sex with me!
Q. The other day my bf woke me to have sex. We did it and it was very good and after we both took a nap. When we woke I needed to run to the store for a few things. When I came back I noticed the bed comforter was pushed all the way to my side. He ...
A. 12 February 2011: You are being insecure. Would it really be different to you if he used his hand? Do you think that because it looks and feels kind of like a vagina, it takes the place of a woman? Don't be ridiculous. And don't tell your boyfriend what not to do wi... (read in full...)
My friend thinks she'll get a diamond for valentines, and is rubbing it in my face!
Q. i knew my best friend about 6 years now and she always talks about herself, her wedding, her clothes and what she always gets. she knows that i wouldnt want to have a wedding in the future for personal reasons however i think she always rubs ...
A. 11 February 2011: Most girls want a big wedding, a big diamond, etc. Most girls, when they get those things, get to enjoy a little bit of jealousy from their girlfriends. She's not getting that from you, and she wants it, so she's trying to make you jealous.... (read in full...)
In love with a woman who is an abusive relationship! Should I wait for her?
Q. So I met this girl at work a few months ago and I developed feelings for her. Come to find out she also developed feelings for me. Problem is, she has been with a guy for 5 years and has two children with him. He is emotionally, and on occasion, ...
A. 9 February 2011: You shouldn't close yourself off to the possibility of being with her in the future, but neither should you emotionally invest yourself entirely in this woman who may never leave her husband. Keep your perspective, keep yourself available to other ... (read in full...)
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