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writes: Hi I have just been to my long distance(50 miles return trip by car) boy friend of 2 months house for the first time and how he treated me was very strange 1)there was no hot water or heating and it got cold at night in the highlands 2)there was only a pot of marmite in the whole house as the cupboards and fridge was empty and as he knows i dont like marmite i found it unreal and when i asked him where the local shop was, he claimed it closed down 2 months ago 3)he made every excuse not to take me out anywhere and spent the whole weekend on his play station ignoring me. My friend thinks somebody has told him as a joke that i have another boyfriend(which i have not) and that he turned off the hot water and heating before i got there,when i got home i phoned to tell him i got home safely and he started to make these horrible noises down the phone. Has anybody got any ideas or should i forget about him and try and find somebody nearer to me, but as i am quite shy i dont know how to go about it as he approached me.
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (27 August 2006):
 Ummm I wouldn't recommend the interweb, most people exaggerate like hell. But I do think your boyfriend was a real dumbass for the way he treated you. And after you made the effort to travel so far for him. Even if its true that he thinks you have another boyfriend, he didn't solve it by ignoring you, just made it a whole lot worse.
Imagine if you have other problems with this guy down the line. It'll probably be the same and make you feel like you should be with someone else each time something comes up. He didn't treat you nicely at all when he did see you, personally I dont think you should stick around for him.
Go out with friends to the usual places. I'm sure you'll see someone else pretty quickly. Hope you get things sorted soon!
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reader, let me help! +, writes (26 August 2006):
This man is a waste of space, and you can do better.
I can understand you were there for fun. forget about this relationship and tell him its over, because it was a waste for you to go all the way to his(50miles) for nothing.
If your shy, try logging on dateingdirect.com and bag yourself a georgest man! you can just talk to him over the internet instead of face to face, so relax! xxx
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reader, seenitdoneit +, writes (26 August 2006):
If he chose to punish you on the strength of what someone said, and the method of punishment was by ignoring you rather than talking it through then I think he has problems with how to conduct relationships and you could be in for a bumpy ride if you stayed with him. You would be better off with someone who he willing to work at a relationship, regardless of how far away they live.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2006): just simply forget him' for me'' that is not what i called love.... even at least just for the matter of respect'' he should do something a little nice for you as you visit him and show to him that you do care for him.
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