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writes:I am 20 years old and attending a large public university 7 hours away from home, and I have absolutely no close friends at that school! Is that such a weird thing? I have literally no social life there, and I don't find myself really wanting one either. I like my life the way it is... even if it is reclusive. I enjoy staying in after classes, studying, playing video games... all by myself! My mother, boyfriend, and best friends from high school all worry about my lack of a social life. The part that bothers me the most is that I think it's strange, too... and even though i enjoy my lifestyle, I feel that it should be more like others'... and I feel bad when people realize that I don't have friends and that I don't have a social life. I feel embarrassed when people go on my facebook, and I only have a handful of "friends" that are from my university. Is this something I should be embarrassed about? Is it something I should actively try to change? And is it so weird that I haven't really connected with anyone in my school? It gets me kind of down when I realize I don't have anyone to live with at school.... and it's not because I choose to live alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your replies... It's hard to be a "loner" during a time when partying is the cool and normal thing to do. It makes me feel like I completely don't belong. But reading your responses really helped calm me down, and I feel infinitely better now that it's off my mind. Thanks again.
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reader, dinosaurexx +, writes (14 January 2009):
 i prefer being by myself, also, as to a big group of people.
not sure why, its just my style.
if its considered weird, then your definately not alone!
... no pun intended.
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reader, sheribaby38 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 You say you're happy being alone and many people are. They call them hermits. If you get lonely go out and make some friends but if you are truly happy with the way things are then don't worry sbout it. It's just the way you are and it's ok to be different.
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