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writes: Why is life easier for some and harder for others? I get depressed about people my age who have things easy and I don't. People my age have things before me in their 20's and I'm well in my 30's before I get, it really depresses me. They'll even be further ahead of me yet again I just can't win, I work as hard they do but I don't get what they get and they even take it for granted and I wouln't, its just not fair. like 5 yaers of me its hard to explain
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): Nobody has things "easy"... it just looks that way because you're not living their lives. But their lives are "ahead" of yours because of choices they've made.
For example... my sister, instead of dating and partying when she was in her teens to early 20s, studied in school, went to law school and now she has a house, a car and all the time (and money) in the world to travel, party, go to spas, etc.
Whereas other people her age decided in their teens to early 20s to party and screw around. Now, while she's single and flying around and living in a great house with a nice new car and getting massages, they're in crappy apartments they can't make the rest on raising kids they can't afford and trying their best to make due.
Our lives are built on the choices we make. If we want to get ahead, we have to make the decision to do so and act on it. Period. There is no "deux ex machina" in life to come suddenly save you without your putting effort into it. "God helps those who helps themselves." You and you alone have control over your life to make it what you want it to be. You either do it and get ahead, or don't do it and cry about how life is unfair. But its your choice, your actions. Nobody elses.
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reader, lovelynightmare  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 Sometimes I wonder the same thing and I'm only 19. My graduating class is now going through college and I am a dedicated musician. They'll probably be "successful" before me and I'll have to wait for a record deal.
But the key thing is to just ignore the people around you and focus on yourself. Much of this society is based on envy, but it's a trap that just makes you feel worthless. Just take small, positive steps for yourself and keep pushing.
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reader, Ask JenniHearts  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 i feel your pain hunny. in todays economy its hard to get further in life. i understand but you need to keep your chin up. head always in the clouds and a positive attitude. don't let people get you down. there's a plan for everyone in this life i promise you. but things will only get worse before they get better.
don't do anything to rash. think about it. and if there's anything you need.
contact me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): Hey I know what you mean - but just think they may have a nice "exterior" to you and their friends but you are way better than they are.
Having brains isn't everything, you can be great at anything and still gain respect!
Hope that helps
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