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writes:I can't seem to define this relationship I have with this girl and its starting to bug me so I thought I could ask for some help because I don't want to tell her about it since i think it would be weird after.Basically she's my best friend but I've realized recently that we have talked for hours on msn every day for the last several months without fail. when we are together we get very touchy i.e. we would constantly poke/hit each other, the other day she kept trying to touch my face and when I tried to stop her she tickled me instead. we are constantly teasing each other but now she has taken it to a new level by bickering with me on everything its like shes my wife... my friends who have seen this say that we're like a married couple but I don't think so... shes never had a boyfriend but she has been asked out but shes always rejected them so i have no idea what kind of relationship we're in are we friends/a couple etc????ps shes pakistani muslim and out of all her friends I seem to be the one she always talks to. What is going on in her head? Does she like me or what?
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 The real question isn't "What kind of a relationship is this". The real question is "what kind of relationship do you want it to be?"
This weird phase in a friendship between the opposite sex is kind of a fun one. There are sparks flying from one or both of you. Your friends are calling you a married couple. You have feelings for her (you didn't SAY this, I'm reading between the lines), and you don't know if she has them for you or not.
This is almost the moment of truth for this relationship. What do you want this to be? If you want just a friendship, then don't worry about defining it. Just define it as a friendship and don't take it past the line. If you want something more, think about HOW you'll approach the subject of wanting more.
I sense you ARE thinking of wanting more than a friendship because you brought up her culture and religion. You're right. Those things will come into account if you and she become serious. Do you know how traditional/rigid her parents are in what kind of a guy they want her to be with?
For now, just enjoy that "will you or won't you" vibe in your friendship. When you decide to make it more, you make the move. But tell her in person, not IM that you have feelings for her.
Good luck!
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Hey :)
Okay. Stop trying to define it. IT doesn't need defining just yet, its good that you have this relationship (I wish I had more like them!) just let it progress, how do you feel towards her? Cause this may be where your asking from. Her religion should have nothing to do with her friends, and her want of talking to you may result from such things as your personality background etc
Essentially- Just go with it :)
SB :) x
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