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*leepingbeauty
writes:I am so frustrated with my ex boyfriend. I broke up with him because of a long distance issue. He didn't have much to say about it at first but the way we handled the post breakup, I thought everything was going to be okay. We had regular conversations, texted, hung out with our mutual friends (the few times I was back in town after the breakup). Nothing romantic happened, just friends once again. It's been a month since the break up and I can't even get a word out of him and it's become so awkward. What happened? I thought things were going to be okay. I thought our break up ended on good terms and I had hoped we'd get to remain good friends.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (15 December 2011):
 Most people find it very hard almost impossible to remain friends after a break up. As caring guy said, especially if you are the one who has been dumped. Your ex probably just couldn't deal with and has chosen not to stay in touch. Perhaps in time he might be able to be your friend, but I'd leave him alone now and give him time to heal. He knows where you are if he wants to contact you.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 December 2011):
You have discovered the sad truth - once something like this has ended, it's very, very hard to just go back to being friends. It is almost certain that one - usually the dumped part - will struggle to remain friends.
You dumped your boyfriend, but you wanted to remain friends. Your ex, however, was the one who was dumped. He didn't know it would happen, he didn't have a choice. He probably thought that if you remained friends, you'd come back. But you didn't, and now that he knows that he's moving on.
The time has come to accept that what you had is over, and is now in the past. He's wanting to move on, and I think you should too.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (15 December 2011):
You may have become friends too fast . Doesn't sound like you gave eachother enough time apart to even be really single .spend time without eachother and let anny feeling that might stil be there go away. Try again when you think you have both moved on. Good luck
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