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writes:Dear Cupid...I've been seeing this guy for a little while now and we've been hanging out. He's 26 and i'm 20 and the other night we were in my car talking and he told me that he had a kid! The child is 4 years old so it was kind of shocking. I'm just not used to it all because my friends and I are just graduating college and starting our lives up and we're nowhere near ready to be having children so I feel like me and this guy have two different mind sets. I was really honest with him and told him that its something i'm definitely not ready for. When he told me he asked... "Well that won't put a damper on things will it?". In my mind I was telling myself yes it will but I said no because at the same time I'm starting to like this guy so its hard. He sees his kid every other weekend so I dont know what to do... should I stick with it or should I call it quits before it buds into a relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): If you know deep down that this is going to cause awkwardness or something then I think it would be better to leave now, rather than stay together any longer and let his feelings grow for you it is kindest to end it.
Before you decide though just have a good think, you aren't going to have to step in and be mum. You can always say to him that you aren't ready for the commitment a child brings, even when he's not your child, but you could still be together and that time with his son is for them only. I can see your point that he has resposibilities that you are no where near having or even wanting, for this reason if I were in your position I would rather end it and enjoy being at the point in life you are and perhaps someone will come along who is more suited to you. That's just my own thoughts though! : ) hope you are happy whatever happens x
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