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writes:hello there...so i broke up with my bf 8 months ago and now, i found out he has a new gf.i was ok with not being with him... i'm doing fine! even though i'm not dating, i'm going out and having fun with my friends... i missed him, but not as a bf.but ever since i found out he has a gf, i've been feeling wierd!i feel like my stomach is turning all the time, my throat is hot as if i ate pepper, and my heart races even though i'm doing nothing!have you guys ever felt something similar?should i go to the doctor or is my body only responding to what i found out this week?i just want to stop feeling this!tks for your time!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): It is normal. It is a mixture of shock and jealousy. It will fade out as you begin to accept it.
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (20 January 2012):
Well, you got nothing to worry about. I broke up with my ex over two years ago. I ve been with my current GF for 2 years and i love her to bits and would swap her for anyone else. 2 days ago i was told my ex has a new boyfriend, a guy her friend use to date who she always talked about. It made my stomach turn for a whole day, but i realized i had more important things to worry about and a loving relationship. Give it sometime and dont think about it, you ll be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): I have a similar situation. I do have a boyfriend and am way past my ex, but two of my closest friends are basically drooling over him. He and I no longer talk or anything, but have recently been in contact. I made the mistake of telling him I missed him, but he took it the wrong way. Like you said you felt, I missed talking to him and having him around, not that I wanted him back. But ontop of another friend telling him i liked him still, he keeps asking me if me and my boyfriend are going to break up...he even told me he still liked me. The thing is, one of my two friends who like him is now dating him. He is always around me, which I don't really mind. But when I talk to him it's like I completely forget I'm taken...he's all I think about at the time. It's Insane!! I myself haven't really figured out how to do deal with this, I usually run from my problems. (but i highly suggest not doing that) Right now i see him around but won't answer any of his calls or texts. It's up to you if you want to get more involved in the situation. I hope my story helped a little...good luck! ;)
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (20 January 2012):
Sounds like the idea really stresses you out. This could mean several things, but I'll narrow it down to three possibilities:
1. You miss him more than you admit and still care for him on some level. I only suggest this because I've been there myself. One of my ex girlfriends I still cared and missed dearly started dating someone else and it was then that I realized I still really liked her. I knew that a relationship would never work out and that we just weren't meant to be together; however, that didn't mean I didn't still have feelings. So you might actually care for him more than you're letting yourself think.
2. In this scenario, you don't really care for him romantically anymore, but the idea of him moving on from you makes you sick. You secretly liked the idea of him still holding onto your past relationship in some way. Hey, I understand; it makes you feel wanted and lusted after, which is a compliment in itself. But now that he's moved on, he no longer wants you and has started something new, and that just doesn't sit right with you.
3. You're not jealous of him; you're jealous of his relationship and don't like the idea of still being single while he's moved on. I've been in the situation where I feel like I'm the only single one in the room; like everyone around me is in relationships while I'm alone on the sidelines. Sure, being single is wonderful and has plenty of perks, but in retrospect, you're a little lonely and miss the idea of being with someone else.
Maybe all three of these are way off, but I have a feeling you fall into one of these categories, even if you aren't willing to say so. But overall, you should be happy your boyfriend is living his own life and is on his way to finding someone else; I'm sure you'd want him to wish the same for you.
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