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writes:I am 21 married 5 months back to my boyfriend whom I dated for about 1 year, He was very caring and loving before marriage, we didn't have sex before marriage as we wanted the feel later, but sex was always the topic in our chat.. But after marriage I do not see him interested in sex, he hardly feel horny and never enjoys sex. Our relationshp is also spoiled eventually and he has turned very rude on me. He cares me only if I fall sick, If I advise him that we would see a good doctor for his sexual problem he always claims he's perfect. Is it because he is having any sexual problem he is behaving this way? Is that our relationship is going on vain due to unsatisfactory sex life??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): Sounds like he has a case of marital regret. I think he is conflicted because he doesnt want to be married possibly.
Also....NEVER suggest that there is a medical issue behind disinterest. Men shut down and become defensive whether it is true or not
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 These are the following possible reasons I believe that he doesn't like sex with you.
1. Is too anxious when having sex and is scared to underperform
2. Is not attracted to you sexualy
3. Has a sexual dyfunction
4. He's gay and in denial about it and therefore doesn't like sex with women.
You should talk gently with him and be empathtic. He might not be aware and/or in denial about why he doesn't like to have sex with you. Itq
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Don't worry, he'll "grow out of it" in other words he'll grow up. Right now he's probably got "buyer's remorse" You know,"Did I do the right thing?" we all go through this(especially men) Looking at your life as being forever changed is a hard thing to do. Just stay positive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): If you were both new to sex. It might not have been as satisfying as you imagined it would be, because your expectations were unrealistic and neither of you had any experience. This could be making him feel less of a man and miserable. Instead of talking to you about it. He might be taking his frustrations out on you in the form of anger. You are his wife and should be able to expect some kind of sex life but telling him he has a problem and needs to see a doctor might not be helping. Men are no different to us and need praise, encouragement and compliments too. Being great at sex takes time. It is an art. If you can, try studying the art of seduction and sex. It might help if one of you had some ideas to take to the bedroom. Best let him know you are looking into the subject of sex though in case he becomes suspicious of your new skills!
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