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anonymous
writes:I'll try to keep this brief.I'm 18 and this guy is 20.I was "seeing" him back in Sept/Oct/Nov.We used to go to the movies, out to eat, bowling, etc.And so I thought he liked me, if he was willing to take me out and pay each time.So after around 2 months of "seeing" each other, I asked him where I stood with him and he had told me that we were "just hanging out" so at this point it had gotten a lil awkward and I backed off.Because we always used to talk through Blackberry Messenger, in December he got rid of his blackberry and got a new phone so I lost contact with him completely.Recently I downloaded "Whatsapp" on my blackberry and its basically connected to your phonebook and apparently he had got an iphone so he was on it.Now I have another person on my list with the same name so when I said hello, I mustve said it to him by accident.After that he started making conversation with me, asked if I want to go to the cinema and just meet up.So I agreed. But I'm very confused because this time round I do not expect anything more or hope for anything more than a platonic friendship, however I'm trying to figure out why a guy would go through effort to see a girl he doesn't like in that way?Back in October he made a couple moves, like putting his arm around me in the cinema, playfighting, etc.But it stopped very quickly.Anyone got any idea what's going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 "He's just not that into you".
Sounds like nice freind material. Enjoy his company, do not seek for more and date other people:)
Best Wishes.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (2 June 2011):
 The guy didn't call you for two months, he is so not into you that he only messages you. You popped up on his BlackBerry by accident, whatever, he's bored or flattered but still not into you.
Don't pursue this guy and don't answer his texts. If he really wants you you won't be asking these questions..he"LL let you know. He will pursue you and talk to you not message you.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 There is a possibilty that he's gay and in denial which is why he might be scared to get too involved in a relationship. Did it ever occur to you that he could be gay ?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Don't drop the "what are we?" line this time. Just have fun! His intentions will become clear over time and he already knows you like him, so if you go in only looking for friendship this time then you won't be disappointed if nothing more comes from it.
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reader, N91 +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Sounds like he thought you were a good friend and liked your company. I have a few close girl friends that I wouldn't want to develop a relationship with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): It sounds as if he saw it as a friendship. Liked you but didn't fancy you. It might have been better if he had explained that to you but then you might not have been interested if he had. There is clearly some interest on his part but bare in mind you contacted him this time. So enjoy his company and try not to cross the border into a sexual relationship unless he has clearly stated his intentions first. Otherwise you could find yourself in a FWB, thinking it is something more than it really is.
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reader, Cupid 2011 +, writes (2 June 2011):
 you could be friends with him if that isnt a problem
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