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writes:About 4 months ago a male work mate and I shared a drunken kiss. We were both completely drunk, and as soon as the kiss happened we pulled away. He had a girlfriend. We spoke about it the next morning and both said it would never happen again, it was a drunken mistake and that we should just forget it. Since then, we've been fine. There's been nothing between us - we don't even talk about the kiss, and we've just got on with our work together as normal. In fact, we work as a pretty good team and people know we are friends. Nobody knows about the kiss though. At the time I was very good friends with a girl called Sarah who I confided this secret in one night when we were out. I felt I could trust her, she promised not to tell anyone and up until now it hasn't been a problem. Thing is, recently she and I have had a big fall out over something pretty serious and her way of retaliating is to tell everyone about this kiss. We share the same circle of friends and I am terrified this gets back to the office. It doesn't need to be in the open - it was one drunken kiss which we both knew was wrong, stopped and have never done again. But what is worse, people have been telling me the way she is telling this story is really spun up to the point it is barely recognizable. From what I've heard, she makes it sound as if this guy and I shared a kiss and now we're always at it and are having an affair behind his girlfriend's back. This is complete crap, but I am terrified that people will believe it because of the amount of time this guy and I spend together. I really don't know what to do. The guy is still with his girlfriend and I don't know if he ever told her about the kiss. But we were both drunk and it meant nothing so we decided it was best just left well alone. What can I do to stop this girl?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): I went through something simlar to this, it was my husband and my best friend. i walked in on them sharing a drunken kiss. we all make mistakes but i believe you no wots right and whats wrong, im no longer her friend and i will never trust him again. You should come clean about it. whats dun is dun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2008): The cat is already out of the bag so you can't stop this girl.Speak to the guy and warn him what may be about to come. If anything gets said at work acted suitably shocked and upset that someone is saying this. Deny, deny, deny. Point out that you had a falling out with this woman and that you think this is her revenge, but that you are hurt and upset that she's dragging someone else into it. Cruel, I know, but then again, breaching a confidence as revenge isn't a nice thing to do either, particularly when it will hurt someone other than your intended target.I don't make this suggestion to save you or him, as what happened between you was wrong as he had a girlfriend. I make this suggestion for the sake of his girlfriend, as if he's not continuing to be a dog to her and is working on keeping his relationship healthy then she doesn't need, want or deserve this upset.
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