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writes:Okay, so I met this guy on the internet, and we've talked pretty much every day for the last month. I've suggested that we meet up a couple of times, but we've actually never made concrete plans. He's a pretty busy guy, in quite a high pressure job, always comes back to my texts pretty quickly - but he's never once suggested meeting up.We get on really well, have the same sarcastic sense of humour, like the same kind of music, and both enjoy going to the gym. We swapped mobile numbers pretty early on, and have been chatting via text during the day, but I'm not sure if he's actually interested in me, or whether I'm just a nice distraction from work!Would it be really wrong to ask what he's doing after work on one specific night and then try to make concrete plans? Or should I just give it up as a bad lot??
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry, perhaps I should have been clearer - he *has* responded in the affirmative, but we've never actually set a time or place.
The trust issues tag is a bit OTT - I don't think that's valid in this case.
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reader, brovers +, writes (7 December 2009):
 i think you should ask him to meet up, if he does put it of then you know to give it up as a bad lot
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry, perhaps I should have been more clear - he *has* responded to my suggestions, but we've never made any concrete plans, so have pretty much been like ships passing in the night!
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reader, chole1111 +, writes (7 December 2009):
give it up if a guy wants to see you he will ask you out. Chances are he is married or has a serious gf. Unfortunately as it stands you are his internet hook up, he will have to make the decision whether he wants more.
Personally I would walk away let him come to you if he does then decide how you want to play it.
In the meantime start talking and getting to know other men
Cheers,
Chole
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 December 2009):
Please be careful. You've asked him out, yet he hasn't replied to any of your suggestions. I think you can afford to try once to ask him out, but if you don't get any response, forget him. Also, if you do meet, meet in a public place and be safe. but don't hold out too much hope. You've suggested meeting and he hasn't said yes. Maybe try once more, then if nothing happens for get him. Remember, a man can be measured by his actions, not his words.
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