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writes:hey people just wanted to know wot to do...ive been with my gf for about a year now we do hava good relationship..but theres a few things that bother me and im worried it may effect our relationship..we gave our vrginity to each other.. I keep getting the this gut feeling that shes tries to hide things about her past from me..for example she told me about this fling she had with someone which i didnt like to hear bt she sed they didnt much more then just kiss..bt for some reason ive tried to ask who it was a couple of times and she always tries to avoid answering the question its like i know the person..i understand shes doing it for my protection bt its annoying at the same time as i feel like im going to lose trust in her..I dnt think she realises that i have noticed her trying to hide it from. do i say something to her about it or just let it go?
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reader, SamuraiRick  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 A big No-NO in any good relationship, something you're gonna learn with time, is never worry about your lover’s past... In fact the less you know the better. If you heard your girl had been involved in a threesome how would that affect your relationship? Wouldn't like it would you. It would make her look stained in your eyes, right? That's why you don't ask, and you don't tell. What's important is what you have in front of you, not who she knocked boots with in her past.
But like I said, the older you get, the less you will stress about this. If you want to keep things good with this girl stop bugging her about it. It makes you look like a loser and needlessly possessive. You're the first guy she slept with...isn't that satisfaction enough?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 November 2007):
 I think you need to stop concentrating so much on her past and focus on your present time together. Who cares if she's had a few kisses in the past? What's one is done and all that matters is what you two share together.
Let it go, sweetness. It sounds like you two have a wonderful relationship. Don't ruin it with the past (which can't be changed anyhow)!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2007): If it bothers you so much to lose your trust for her then ask her...
I would want to know, maybe she would just tell her straight up what your feelings are she will understand she is a girl we have a lot of feelings just don't try to be so pushy asking her just take it one step at a time cause my ex was so much like that so just remember just be nice to her feelings about it and tell the truth
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Dude, learn one thing very quickly. What your girlfriend did in the past is just that - the past. It is none of you business and your girlfriend doesnt have to tell you anything.
You don't want to become one of these guys we see posting on this site who are obsessed with their wives/girlfriends previous lovers - they are a pathetic self indulgent bunch.
You are still young, enjoy your time with your gf and think of the future not the past.
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