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We hooked up and he's told all of our friends about it!

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Question - (5 November 2010) 7 Answers - (Newest, 6 November 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I started seeing this guy. When we got to the point where we hooked up, it was fun. So afterward, that's when things got complicated. It seems like thats all he wants from me now. I mean, he does make an attempt to be normal, but then he starts wanting sex again. I feel so used. To make matters worse, I found out from a friend who's dating his friend, that he's told everyone about what we did. I feel so embarrassed because our circle seems big, but its actually very small. Now everyone knows about me. I don't know what to do.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010):

I find it more immature to have sex you're ashamed to admit than to have sex and talk about it afterwards.

I'm sorry you and he disagree on who should know about this but you aren't the only person involved. He has just as much right to talk about it as you have the right to keep quiet. I don't think he automatically owes you silence if he didn't promise that ahead of time.

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A female reader, cheekyfriday Australia +, writes (6 November 2010):

You either like him or you do not. You care that he told others about you, so he gets a big X Cross. What you going to do now? He obviously likes you, and you are struggling to see how, cause all he wants is more sex. Well you could get in there and enjoy it with him, he will talk eventually, or you could move on.

Hum, I think you should move on, cause you wouldnt be asking us is you thought he was the only one for you.

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A female reader, tennisstar88 United States +, writes (6 November 2010):

tennisstar88 agony auntI suppose he's never heard the saying " What happens in the bedroom stays behind closed doors". So because you guys have hooked up he thinks he has bragging rights. Jerk. Ditch him since he's using you for sex, and sharing details with anyone who will listen. In fact, I'd get one up on him and tell your group he's really not that great in bed, you had to fake it. That will teach him a lesson.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (5 November 2010):

Honeypie agony auntWow how immature! Honestly I would stop having sex with him and overall ignore him, he's a douche.

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A female reader, redlight United States +, writes (5 November 2010):

Yep just keep your chin up. Dont let him use you for sex! Get away from him if that is how you feel.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2010):

Wow what an a$$hole...this guy reminds me of that prick lawyer I used to work for who called all his women "trophies". This man flat out used you and is now bragging about it so whatever words he's said about feelings, forget it. He just wants sex and to claim you, your beautiful sacred body, as just a woman he's had sex with, thats it. Slap him cause my biceps arent anywhere near him. get a real gentlemen miss. Im sorry about this.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (5 November 2010):

aunt honesty agony auntJust hold your head up high if they are your friends they wont judge you and just remember you have done nothing wrong here or anything to be ashamed of. He shouldnt have told your friends though sex is a private matter between two people and it shouldnt be made public, this shows that he is not to be trusted, it sounds like he wants you as a sex buddy dont fall in to this trap if he wants sex again just say no to him, if he asks why tell him you want to be commited to someone before you have sex with them. Dont let him use you hun.

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