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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I'll make this short and simple.I met a guy recently. I fell for him straight away.He had gorgeous eyes, and an amazing personality. After we met, we constantly called eachother and always wanted to see eachother. Well, that was all before a week ago, when we had sex.The day after we had sex, alot of friends found out, and started commenting me on "bebo" and in my defense, I said it was a mistake. I paniced and I thought by covering it up and making up for it, I could say it was a mistake, because it was "drunk sex" ( Even though I really didn't feel as if it was a mistake)Well this guy that always called me. Didn't call me after we had sex, and I was very upset, my assumption was that he used me for sex. What else is a girl to think? Well anyways, he called me today, but not for a sweet little talk, to yell at me. He read everything that was said on my "bebo" ( comments and such )And he just wouldn't let me explain. I don't know if he's mad that I said it was a mistake, or if he's mad that people found out and thinks I told everyone, either way he's mad about something. When I asked him what I did wrong he said, "You know what you said and I'm not repeating it" and hung up.He is the type of guy who hears ONLY what he wants to hear, and once something sticks in his head, it sticks there. He won't let you explain anything and he just keeps rambling on about how mad he is at you, even though you say sorry how many times..I don't know how to fix this. I don't know exactly what he's mad about, and he told me not to call him ever again, but I want to call him, I want to figure this out, it's killing me.I guess this wasn't exactly "short"but any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhoh.. easy, "Uncle Phil"
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 July 2008):
 hee hee Uncle Phil!
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (12 July 2008):
Leave him alone! you made a mistake by trusting him. Learn from your mistake and move on.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Trust me hon, you were used. This happens too often with girls your age (and guys too, I suppose). Did you use protection at least?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): So the pair of you were playing to an audience?
I hope they applauded at the end of it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually, I never told anybody. It was the people who were there who told other people.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 July 2008):
This is the result from immature "I think I'm an adult but I'm not" casual sex. Some people have to learn everything the hard way and I'm afraid you just did. Keep a nickel between those knees until you can say "I'm a mature, responsible person" and be telling the truth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Okay, please don't hate me for this;
BUT
I have to give you this lecture; and yes, I can hear you moaning at me;
BUT
I am trying to help you;
DO NOT so easily have sex with a guy; wait untill you do know him very well;you don;t want to become labelled "easy" do you?
DO NOT tell your friends; it is something very private and not to be discused with others; it is none of there business;then they can not spread rumours about you or put it on the internet or whatever.
PLEASE whenever you do have sex;
DO NOT
Have unprotected sex; not just because of the risk of pregnancy; but also think about the dangers of STD'S and AIDS.
Enjoy life and choose your friends and boyrfriends wisely.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): If a lot of your friends found out that you had sex the day after it happened, someone must have told them. Originally only the two of you knew about it unless someone else was watching or listening! So, was it you or him that went off bragging to their buddies?
If it was him, he's got no right to be mad at you.
As a mate of mine once said about sex "Sex is like a good crap - once you've had it you no longer need it". That appears to be this guy's attitude. He's had it, now he no longer needs you for it.
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reader, tux +, writes (11 July 2008):
 I agree with lotus here.. He is most likely just using you for sex.. and I'm guessing he is doing someone else at the same time which would explain one reason why he would get upset if the "world" knows you two had sex the other night.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (11 July 2008):
He used you for sex...Now he thinks he has a good excuse to avoid you. If you were older, and wiser to this game, you would have known better and kept your temple to yourself untill it was crystal clear that he actually loved you. You were used, learn from it, move forward, and don't make that mistake again (it WAS a mistake! I hope you arnt pregnant, eek!) I am not sure what a "bebo" is, lol! I'm such a square, would you please enlighten me? By the way, a whole lotta guys that age range behave like jackasses, so beware sweetie! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2008): Hello,
This guy obviously has no sex etiquette. Maybe he just wanted to see what it was like with you. Anyway, you shouldn't even care, considering the way he treated you. Just ignore him and find someone who cares about you and treats you the way you deserve.
bye!
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