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writes:I met this guy on tinder and we went on a date 2 weeks ago, it went so well, even he admitted he had "a very good evening", we have been talking a lot since, even when I was on holiday last week we were messaging. The last 5 days or so he's been very cold, taking ages to read my whatsapp then taking unusually long to reply. Not too sure why this, as we have been getting on so well, and to be honest I wouldn't mind going on a second date. Should I message him mentioning going on a second date? Or wait for him to say something ?Thanks for your help xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2015): whats wrong with a woman initiating a second date?
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reader, BE125  +, writes (11 August 2015):
Like the previous posters said, there could be a lot of reasons. I find the same thing happening to me with women all the time. We'll go out or talk for a while and then they kind of vaporize for no apparent reason. It could be he's afraid and unsure of what he's feeling because it's starting to get real for him, or maybe he's found someone else, which is unfortunate but you have to allow for that possibility. But I think you should definitely pose the question to him on why his behavior has changed and maybe say I hope it wasn't something I said or did type of thing, and I think you will get an answer.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (9 August 2015):
There could be lots of explanations for this. He’s taking his time, but he isn’t ignoring you, so perhaps he’s busy. I would message him to find out if he’d like another date because you’ve got nothing to lose. Either it will go well, it will go badly or he’ll decline, and you’ll know where you stand. It is early days so easy to suck it up and move on if it isn’t to be.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2015): Wait.
If he doesn't contact you within a week, simply assume he has lost interest and move on to a person who is more interested in you.
Do not expect immediate answers on dating apps,btw. Why this "immediateness" is expected of everyone,all the time,including friends as well,not only partners, baffles me.
But,anyways, point being-if he likes you,he will find a way to show it. And not through msgs ;)
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 August 2015):
 Hmmm, I think he lost interest or... he met someone else on Tindr while you were on vacation.
Or you could TRY and ask him out, see what happens, at least that way you will know where you stand.
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