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writes:I met this girl before I moved away a few years back and we've been best friends over the net for about 3 - 4 years now. We've been interested in one another for a long time. I've been in College for a year and am moving back to her area in September. This last December she finally took the plunge to make good on her love and "be mine" since I'm coming back soon. Then fast forward to February and she breaks off the promise for another guy nearby. Her friends say that I still have a decent chance to keep her, but it's really tearing me up. I don't know what to do, I've known her for 4 years and we've been through a lot of hardships together. But I feel like I've been just a back up guy for her. I love this girl but I can't take being second choice all the time.Thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNEWS: She has decided to take me back, in spite of the other guy. She says the more she's with the other guy, the more he's just a good friend. So I suppose problem solved for now.
What she said exactly was:
"I thought a lot and, I believe Tony is my present. But... I also believe you are my future.. my life. The more I spend time with him, the more he's more just a good friend. Lots of hugs, but nothing deep."
And I'm about 95% certain she isn't lying, so I'm pretty sure that we'll be all alright. Thanks for the reply though :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNEWS: She has decided to take me back, in spite of the other guy. She says the more she's with the other guy, the more he's just a good friend. So I suppose problem solved for now.
What she said exactly was:
"I thought a lot and, I believe Tony is my present. But... I also believe you are my future.. my life. The more I spend time with him, the more he's more just a good friend. Lots of hugs, but nothing deep."
And I'm about 95% certain she isn't lying, so I'm pretty sure that we'll be all alright. Thanks for the reply though :)
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reader, 07221987 +, writes (12 March 2008):
I have had this same problem but I was on the other side. I had this same "promise" with my ex-boyfriend whom I only broke up with because I was moving 600 miles away and would never see him (and still have not almost 3 years later). I wanted to wait to see what could happen but ended up falling in love with a great guy and having a child with him. I still think about this ex and our "promise" but I realized that I have to think about my life and holding on to the "what if's" could end up hurting me. I think that although you like her alot, she has not cared enough to keep that "promise", she knew you were coming and she couldn't wait so I think you should move on too. I truly believe that things happen for a reason even if you do not know that reason at first. You never know...maybe in the future you all will reconnect at the convience of both of you...best wishes...07221987
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