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*ade00
writes:I met a man recently, and i am not sure if he likes me. We are from two different worlds but a few things in common, i got mixed feelings on this date and the next day he didn't call, i saw him on msn the next day and he didn't even say hello. I am black and he is white, during the date at a rstaurant i found the him a bit stand off but he made effort to start conversation, as i went to the ladies room and return , he was on his phone texting and he was a bit offish. He then said are you finish should we go, i wanted to end the date, on the way back he asked if i wanted to hold on to his arm because he i was getting wet and he had the umbrella, so i did. To me it felt right. He asked me out on another date but i feel he was only being polite. any advice?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (10 August 2007):
 He was very clear about describing what happened here: he picked up on your doubts, and was wondering whether YOU wanted to continue to see him. This fully explains his behavior and the waiting.
I think you should give it a try with this man. He seems honest and interested.
I have the feeling that being of different races is affecting you. This kind of relationships sometimes need to deal with many prejudices and misconceptions around. It shouldn't matter whether you are black and he's white. It should be like a happy combination of lemon and salt: it adds a lot of flavor.
I think it's only understandable that you're choosy. Any man you date needs to be good to your child, as well. You can't take anyone. Maybe you will come across a bad guy or two, but, with time, a good man will come you way; be wise to let him approach you.
I wish you the best with this guy. You deserve it.
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reader, jade00 +, writes (31 July 2007):
jade00 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe man i dated replied on the second day...by e-mail. He said he had a great time on our date and would like another date with me, he also said that he thaught i was doubtful of him and that he is of me too, but he would like to give our friendship a try. I replied by saying i wasn't doubtful of him its because i haven't been on a date in a while and iam a bit shy sometimes. I have to be warey of strange men mainly because iam a single mum and i have to be choosey. I think maybe he was waiting for a reply from me because after the date he asked me out and i said i would think about it and he agreed i should think about it and let him know. ..... hope you are not confused... would love to hear what you think.?
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (30 July 2007):
I feel the same way about this. I'm afraid he is being polite. I suggest you stay away from him for a while and see if he comes your way spontaneously.
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