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writes:I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now. We split up because we are still young and we had different interests in life.Recently we have been meeting up and sleeping together, I was ok at first and thought it would be easy but now my heads all over the place. I love him so much and I miss us being in a relationship, we were great together but I am just scared what his reaction could be! I don't think I can carry on with just casually seeing him, I just need another opinion please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2013): don't get caught up in the "in between" phase. it's giving him his freedom to do as he wants and you're becoming an option. tell him unless you two are on the same page you can't continue this. i went through the same thing when my bf broke up with me. he would text me here and there and i would meet up with him and we'd sleep together i would feel great "in the moment" i would sadly look forward to these texts to see him and feel wanted by him. it was really pathetic. I was allowing him to jerk me around. You'll only get hurt in the end...i did..you deserve to be with someone who wants to commit to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2013): As a guy old enough to be your grandfather, I can tell you that if you're putting out for your ex then he has no reason to want to get back together as he currently enjoys all of the benefits of a relationship (regular and frequent sex) with none of the disadvantages (fidelity, obligation, commitment). As my late grandmother would have said, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free?"
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 March 2013):
 If you got back together you will eventually confront the same problems that caused you to break up. I believe that casual sex is only manageable with people you don't know well and don't intend to. You can talk to him and risk him not wanting to see you again, but you will be giving yourself chances to meet a more suitable guy and start fresh.
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