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writes: To cut a long story short: I broke up with my boyfriend because he was alwayswith his friends, never rang etc, then we met up to see where wanted to fromhere. Satuday:I told him i didnt come to get with him, just came to sort thingsout, so he flipped and said 'so u dont want to be with me?'...Then said hecouldnt be with me because there was too much hurt and couldn't stand it if ifinished with him, then he said 'How could u smile at that kid when i wanted itall with you, it hurts me'. He was crying constantly, and could barely look atme. I couldn't understand why he was putting himself through so much pain? Heeven cried before i even spoke about us...i just don't understand. He waspunching things and sobbing. I asked him if he could see a future with me hesaid 'No'...that really hurt, how could he say he wants to marry and plan to getengaged but so easily let me go? He also commented that 'He's always asked meback and i never have'. So i excepted the fact he couldnt see a future with me. My last words were 'Just remember you let me walkaway, one day you'll regret it' and he said 'i already am', i got out of thecard, he started punching the steering wheel and speeded off in the car. Ihavent contacted him...then on monday, he msged me on MSN sayin he feels like**** and asked if we could talk, so i asked about what, he said how u are etc.Then the next day he did the same again, but saying he's not good, and that he'sf'ed things up, and he's weak, i made him strong...then 'Im so sorry bleep. I willlove you forever'. Left it at that. Then he text my mum on Wednesday saying... 'Hi bleep. How are you and bleep? How's asking about me? I didnt want things to turn outlike this. I love your daughter so much, i did what i did because i didnt wantto hurt her anymore. She deserves more than me. Tell bleep i love him (mybrother). Thank you for all your kindness and friendliness. Thanks again'...I don't understand why he has to message her now...when we first broke up shetext him and he never replied to her...so why now? I know he's stubborn. Whydoes he have to speak to me? It breaks my heart...reminds me of everything allover again. I took on board what he said and i haven't contacted him, so why ishe doing this to me? Its hard as we planned to get engaged this month...ouranniversary would of been on monday! I'm 20, he's soon to be 25. I've respectedhis wishes, and trying to get over him (its hard, and it hurts), but i can't ifhe's contacted me.I'm now finding it really hard since he's contacting me...i dont want to contacthim incase he says 'No i dont want to get back with you' i think it'll break me.I'm the sort of person who takes everything to heart and im finding it reallyhard now. I thought i was doing ok until he contacted me...now it's all i canthink about and even having dreams about him. I just don't know what to do. Iknow i love him and i'm not over him...we've shared so much together and had afuture planned...it's hard to just let go. I'm finding it hard to cope...please help:(For reference bleep is instead of a name, as they won't allow me to post names on here.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (14 January 2007):
 he seems sorry for hurting you, and that hes feeling remorse over it and just wants to tell you that hes sorry and wanting to know if youre all right, he still probaly loves you and still cares but it seems that he now doesnt see a future hence letting you go, or for wotever reason he has for not asking for you back..
i know it hurts, my ex cheated on me, and asked if we could still be friends..i never contacted him , he contacted me all the time asking how i was(which was his way of caring making sure i was ok)
.. i sat their looking at the message heart broken cried alot too..he said he was hurting over it too he would always love me and just wants to make sure im alright..
what could i say other than yeah im ok(lie i was hurting like hell, he said he loved me) i know my story is different from ures but the process are always similiar..
the major thing with this is going to be time sweetie, time is the biggest healer, i know it hurts and many other people share it with you, talk to a friend let it all out, go out and try to have fun..
i know you had plans and its hard to think out of the box, but ure going a different path now, their will be more chances for you with love and i hope youre happy...what i would try and do is move forward, standing still wont get u anywhere
hope this helps just my opinion xxxx A
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