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anonymous
writes:Me and my boyfriend split up a few months ago, and got back together, we decided to really work on our relationship and spent a lot of time together, and decided we would work on moving in together, we began to get the house he has decorated. This means i've been spending almost every day with him in his house. However when it comes to the point where i or he needs to do our own thing i'm starting to feel funny about it. I have never been the type to be clingy before, but since we decided to aim for moving in together, every time he or i want space. We both seem to end up using the 'when you live with me routine'... i.e when we live together we will be spending a lot of time together so why not now? It's starting to bother me. How can i prevent it?
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (24 June 2008):
 Hmm. I'm a little pazzled. You see, in my experience, when you're in love, you both want to spend all your time together, so you spend as much as you can, until realise you can't live without each other... in which case you decide to get married and move in together.
However, you still respect each other's right to boys or girls nights out (assuming you love and trust each other).
Now, if a couple don't really get on when they're just going out, moving in together is torture and what finally makes you realise how much you can resent a person!
My advice can only be to live for the now and take your time getting to know each other well and letting your love grow.
If you keep arguing, fighting and breaking up, just accept that you're not meant to be, before you get stuck with having to pay rent or (worse) a mortgage!
God bless and good luck!
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reader, MissWendlemoot  + ♥, writes (24 June 2008):
 When are you actually going to move in together? Is there a date? Will it be both of your house or just his house?
Are you saying that you aren't spending enough time together?
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